09/03/2026
Fred died 9 years ago today. While I feel for some reason like I should avoid buying into the notion that anniversaries of deaths have to be painful, or even stand out among other random days…and, while not all of them are especially painful, this one has been. Incredibly, my sister Tina sent me this message midday on Facebook Messenger. I clicked the link to the Reddit thread shown here, and since then haven’t been able to stop thinking about reaching out to connect with the OP of this Reddit stream. So this evening, with puffy, swollen eyes and blurry streaks throughout the makeup on my cheeks, I began scrolling through tons of old pictures and posts, falling deeply into the pain of it all as if the trauma were coursing though my body today (because indeed it was). I have spent the last couple of hours trying to find one quintessential Fred post whose link I could share with this person who posted on a Reddit thread about the FRED synchronicities in his life. Of course, it was impossible to find just one or any one post that encapsulates everything I feel the need to share with this person I do not know. But, I finally decided, instead of sending a specific post to him, I would post about him, and be the in his life today. Death is an illusion. We are all connected. And only Love is Real.