10/09/2026
Letās remember that a calm/quiet horse isnāt necessarily a relaxed horse.
And this is probably one of the hardest things I constantly have to explain in my work, especially when Iām working with horses that seem calm, stand still, and are obedient.
Because sometimes, these horses are actually holding their breath, holding tension in their bodies, and tuning out. Theyāre not really present with whatās happening around them or with us. And they are not looking for us for the answer.
And everything might look perfectly fine until things become too much. Then, suddenly, the horse explodes, and people wonder where that came from.
And it gets more complicated than thatā¦
When we start working with these horses and helping them become more present, they can actually become MORE reactive for a while.
Why? Because theyāre starting to tune in again. Theyāre starting to feel, to notice things, and to actually show us whatās going on inside instead of shutting it all out.
It also means we have something to work with.
We can start to understand their reactions, help them work through their tension, and teach them how to regulate themselves instead of shutting down or pushing through until everything becomes too much.
This takes time, and itās not always a linear process. But itās such an important part of creating a horse who genuinely feels better, who feels safe enough to communicate, and who can stay connected with us when things become hard.
Iām looking for a horse who is actually there with me. A horse who feels safe enough to express themselves, who can learn to regulate their stress, and who can become more relaxed in their body and mind.
I feel this is where we start building a true connection and a much safe AND happier horse. š§”
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