04/13/2026
— A dog does not need to be abused to become reactive —
Based on with working with my own reactive dog, there are only 3 things the owner needs to do:
1. Let the puppy say hi to every dog they meet on the walk
2. Let the puppy go to a doggy daycare and play all day in a free-for-all format
3. Take the puppy to dog parks as often as they can
Over 95% of puppies will become dog reactive/aggressive by 8-12 months, if not sooner.
If they also do the following, the puppy will very likely become anxious, fearful, and reactive to people and very hard to control in the house as well:
1. Argue with each other in front of the puppy often
2. Allow on-leash greeting to everyone they meet on the walk
3. Spend lots of time coddling the puppy, and ask every guest to do the same
4. Give the puppy excessive freedom in the house without boundaries and consequences
If they do both of the above, they will very likely have a puppy who is very nervous, anxious, and territorial in the house, and very reactive/aggressive and easily distracted and triggered outside.
Emotionally, the puppy is unstable and imbalanced which is why they are behaving the way they do.
As they grow older, these inappropriate behaviours would have been practised, repeated, and reinforced a lot — so they will become deeply imprinted habits — and the once young puppy, who is now a dog, will continue to suffer.
As a result, this dog will have to live in a very small world with a very limited quality of life for many years, may be for life.
Why would anyone do that to their puppies?
Usually two reasons:
1. They are misinformed
They think they are “socializing” their puppies. They think that is how they should express their love to their puppies.
Many such owners find out they were misinformed, then make the necessary changes, and become great owners who provide a great life for their dogs.
2. They are selfish
Some will continue on their old ways even after they have been told not to.
They like the feelings they get from watching their puppies say hi to friends, play in dog parks, being petted by strangers, going to daycare, free roaming in the house, etc.
When they have to make a choice between doing what makes them feel good vs what is best for their puppy — they chose themselves.
They are not putting the best interest of their puppy first.
They choose to use the puppy to satisfy their own wants instead of meeting their puppy’s needs for proper growth and development, as a result, their puppy will continue to pay the price, and suffer.
Sorry if this sounds harsh but that is what l have seen. Over and over again.
The solution does not lie in the puppy but how the owner views the puppy and lives with the puppy. If the owner refuses to change, no training can help the puppy.