04/17/2026
Great Perspective ⭐️
Horse shows are not known for their gentleness. They are loud with comparison. Who moved up. Who moved down. Who got the catch ride. Who won the hack. Who was called back first. Who wasn’t.
Reputations travel quickly, and it’s easy to see competitors as threats. Scarcity can feel real. There is only one tricolor. Only one blue ribbon. But author and performance coach Brad Stulberg offers a different lens that may fundamentally shift how riders experience competition.
“The word compete,” he explains, “comes from the Latin roots co, which means with or together, and then petere, which means to aspire or to rise up.” In its truest form, he says, compete means “to rise up together.”
Riders often assume that in order to perform well, they must detach from the people around them. Stay focused. Avoid eye contact. Block out the competition. But Stulberg argues that competition, when understood properly, is not about isolation. It’s about elevation.
“The whole point of competition,” he says, “is to rise up together to get the best out of yourself.”
Wanting to win is not the problem, but ego can be.
Stulberg makes a critical distinction: “Do you want to win? Absolutely. Is it okay to want to win and have intensity around that? Yes. But if you sacrifice the joy of the sport for that… then you’ve lost.”
That sacrifice can happen quietly. Riders stop appreciating beautiful rounds because they didn’t ride them. They start measuring their own worth against someone else’s ribbon count. They allow another rider’s success to diminish their own effort. And in doing so, they misunderstand what competition is offering them.
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