05/18/2026
I think people confuse “she helps animals” with “she has unlimited resources”…
Because yes, I do help animals. I have helped a lot of animals. I want to help animals. That is not the problem.
The problem is that I am not magically funded. I do not have a nonprofit bringing in donations. I do not have a whole rescue staff. I do not have grants, sponsors, employees, or some endless supply fairy dropping off bags in the driveway every morning.
It is literally me… and my husband who helps when he can, but he is also a human being who has to work and make money and survive too.
And that’s the part people don’t seem to understand.
Every dog here still has to eat. Every dog here still needs care. Every dog here still needs time, attention, cleanup, management, affection, vet care when something happens, space to live, and actual quality of life. I’m not trying to collect animals just so I can say I saved them. I want them to actually be okay here.
And half the time I’m already putting myself on the back burner trying to make sure they have what they need. I will go without before I let my animals go without, and anybody who actually knows me knows that.
So when people keep coming to me with another dog, and another kitten, and another animal, like I’m supposed to just absorb every situation they just "don’t want to deal with anymore"… it puts me in this impossible position. And a LOT of these animals are sick or need to be bottle fed or arrive by the full litter!
Because if I say no, I’m heartless.
But if I say yes to too many and then I can’t provide the life they deserve, I’m still the horrible person.
Like… okay. So what exactly is the correct answer here? Take every animal, even when I know I’m already stretched thin, and then magically find money, food, space, time, and energy out of the ground? 🤦♀️
I care. That is why I have to say no sometimes.
Not because I don’t want to help.
Because I do.
But wanting to save every animal and being physically, financially, and mentally able to keep taking more are not the same thing.
Sometimes no is not me turning my back on an animal…
Sometimes no is me trying to make sure the animals already depending on me don’t get less of what they deserve. Sometimes saying no is exactly what needs to happen to prevent accidental hoarding bc yk it takes ages to get them adopted it's not just 1 night and done.
And that part apparently gets lost on people.