09/13/2026
"It could be better."
"You shouldn't be asked to struggle through this."
I was talking with one of my favorite trainers after we had worked with some clients together and she said the above statements. Granted my emotional state is rocky these days as I deal with grief, but I was surprised at how that made me feel.
The problem with working for yourself in an unregulated industry is that you have to create the manual for yourself. What are your business policies? What are your boundaries? What does a safe work environment look like? Who is the ideal fit as a client? What is your level of expertise? Who can you help with what you know?
I don't actually find any of the above difficult until you put it into practice in real life in the horse world.
And every farrier is different, so we all want and need different things from our clients. Some are better than others about communicating those needs. And sometimes you have an appointment that is so full of red flags that you get back in your truck, take a deep breath that you survived, and block that person's number because you can't even dredge up the energy it would take to tell them you're not coming back. To be fair, those people don't give a s**t and will be back on Facebook posting ISO when their horses are 6 months overdue.
Then your favorite clients beg you not to fire them and you realize the wrong people are worried about losing their hoof care professional.
ANYWAY I digress a bit. When it comes time to advocate for yourself - depending on how many horses you've done that day, how many shirts you've sweated through, whatever is going on in your personal life, and sometimes how you think this client will react to your request - it just feels easier to put your head down and suffer through.
So when my friend and trainer tells me, about a difficult appointment where I'm worried a horse is going to accidentally injure me, that "it could be better" and she has the tools to help this horse....I found myself profoundly touched.
To pass on the sentiment to you -
Farriers: it's not too much to ask for a safe work environment AND training for horses who have a difficult time during their appointment.
Trainers: it's not too much to ask for collaboration with the client and other professionals in the horse's best interest.
Clients: it's not too much to ask (when your farrier would like to not risk their life and career that day) for you to be willing to problem solve.
To the horses we love, to the ones who confound us, and to the horses we want to help: we will do our best.
To the humans who stay in their lane, get really good at what they do, and are willing to share that with others: bless you.