10/03/2026
Stuff can go wrong. Oh boy can it go wrong
If you’re around horses, it’s not a matter of if, but when.
But whether or not you learn from them, or become a victim of circumstance and chance is totally up to you.
The moments after a wreck or accident matter. Once you’ve all regrouped, attended to what needs attending to - injuries, repairs, some deep breathing - it’s time to take stock in what happened.
There are SOME freak accidents, but most could have prevented. Could’ve would’ve should’ve is actually helpful when trying to learn from a situation. At this point you have several options: let your pride and embarrassment swallow up any chances of learning and pretend it isn’t in any way your fault, or, become so engrossed in self blame that you are wallowing in pity to the point you can’t move on.
Being that neither one is super helpful, another option is:
Try to remember what happened.
What went wrong? Can you pinpoint an actual moment? Was there a judgement call made that turned out to not be right?
Were there skill sets missing on your part or the horses or those around you?
Were emotions involved? Time constraints? Social pressures?
What regrets do you now have that can help move you forward in a positive direction?
I find guilt to not be super productive because of its close association with shame - but some amount allows us to look accurately at what needs to change.
To err is human, to forgive divine -
But forgiving ourselves, I believe, means learning from the mistake so we can prevent it from happening again.
And if possible, make amends with those we failed. Ignorance harms many horses - we can’t avoid making mistakes from ignorance. But we can help those we have from our learning or pay it forward.
My path to education is littered with mistakes. Many very, very preventable that I now can help guide people to avoid. I owe a lot of horses many apologies for my ignorance and sometimes emotional interferences - and I try my best to now pay that forward. I’m sure there will be more, but each time I learn better how to accept my mistake without deflecting blame and trying to make up for it.
It can be pretty hard to be human sometimes. Horses are masters at teaching us how to be the best humans we can be.
Here’s me getting very lucky and learning from one such mistake