02/17/2021
Stages of growth:
1.) SUBCONSCIOUS INCOMPETENCE- you suck so bad you don’t even know how bad you suck.
2.) CONSCIOUS INCOMPETENCE - at least you are aware of what particular thing you are sucking at. We usually hate this stage, because who wants to be bad at something?!?! But if you can, get excited about the stage! Hey, at least you now know what to work on. Imagine how awesome you’ll be once you get this stuff figured out. 😁
3.) CONSCIOUS COMPETENCE - you can do the thing now! Yay! But you have to think about it. Too often, this is where things stagnate and fall apart. We think we’ve arrived. But the truth is we can only do the thing and be competent when we are consciously thinking about it. That’s OK, but the truth is as long as we have to concentrate on what we are doing in this stage, we are never going to be able to move on or learn more. If you just learned how to fix your body while going left on a circle, chances are you’re not going to remember to do it on a leg yield- that’s just too much to think about. Or maybe you can! Yay! But it may be too much to layer on the next position fix.
4.) SUBCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE - you are so good, you do the thing without even thinking about it. Sometimes, very talented people jump right to subconscious competence, and therefore make terrible instructors because they never had to learn how to do the thing. They might not even know they are doing it. They may swear up and down they do not use seat aids, because the truth is they do it subconsciously and always have, and were never actually taught how to do it – they just have a natural feel. But if you took the long way here, through the first three stages of learning, then this means that you’ve been so consistent in applying what you have learned that it is totally automatic to you now.
These four stages a very scientific terms and it might feel a little cold and not so applicable.
So think of it this way- you learn of something you were previously unaware of. That is you moving from stage 1 to 2. This move is often accompanied by confusion, or maybe an epiphanous moment. This is exciting stuff. Learn to appreciate this stage.
You work on it, you work on it, you work on it. This is the drudgery of stage 3! It can last a very long time. Often we work on the thing for a while, and then completely forgot about it! Oh no!! All that learning gone to waste. This is the stage that separates those who really want it, and those who just talk about it. If you know you have a chronic equitation flaw, do the work to fix it. That’s it. Do the work. You know HOW.
Often times, we work on something for a while, but quite frankly we get bored with it. We may still be collapsing left, but we want to work on our horse, and we want to work on the fun things. Soon we forget about fixing our seat and pick on the horse instead. I’m guilty too!!! (Soooooo guilty!!!!) The stage is simple, but it is not easy!
Then we get to the glorious part where it becomes automatic. Having things in our automatics is the only way that we have the headspace to learn more things. But beware! Often times we are only in the middle of stage three, we declare the new thing to now be in our automatics, and we move on. Opps!! Within a few weeks, we are back to old habits and it’s like we revert right back to stage one. We think we fix the thing, so we ignore it. We are hoping we are subconsciously competent, but we are actually subconsciously incompetent.
I have spent so many years riding on my own without regular instruction, so I know how deep this pitfall can go. Lately, I feel like I don’t even want to ride if I don’t have someone who can watch me and remind me of all the things that I think I know, but that I’m not actually doing! I want to get those things into my automatics and that can’t happen without consistency- Boring, rote, yell-at-me-if-my-right-leg-even-thinks-of-doing-that-weird-thing consistency.