09/30/2026
The common instruction to “extend your hand and let the dog sniff you” has misled humans for decades.
When I'm out in the world with either my or clients' dogs, I frequently observe individuals trying to approach us with an excited energy and an outstretched hand to "just say hi."
Dogs are constantly evaluating their surroundings with their nose and eyes. Extending a hand and excitedly reaching out to touch represents to them an uninvited intrusion into their personal space, particularly when they are in the process of deciding whether or not THEY want "to say Hi."
Every dog possesses a unique personality; a select few may be receptive to human contact, while most would prefer to continue on their way. It is crucial to understand that a dog's approach to you does not equate to an invitation for petting. Approaching you is their continued way of assessing and determining if they want to engage with you or not.
Instead of reaching towards an unfamiliar dog, it is recommended to remain calm and composed, and practice ignoring the dog—refrain from talking, making eye contact, or initiating touch. This strategy emphasizes to the dog that you are allowing it to engage with you on its own terms. By permitting the dog to approach you and gather your scent through its sense of smell, you foster a sense of calm and respect to them rather than an invasion of their space.
Needless to say, it is of utmost importance to teach children the same principles: remain calm, give dogs space—especially those they are unfamiliar with—and if a dog comes closer, allow it to sniff them without interference.