10/23/2026
Let me clarify something…
After my recent post about the conversations that happen along the rail at horse shows, I received an overwhelming amount of support. I also received some responses suggesting that I need thicker skin, that I shouldn’t let people’s opinions bother me, or that perhaps I just need to grow up.
And I think those responses are exactly why this conversation needs to happen.
My feelings aren’t hurt. I’m advocating for change. There’s a difference.
I’ve spent enough time in this industry to understand that criticism, opinions, and judgment come with competitive horse showing. I don’t expect everyone to like my horse. I don’t expect everyone to agree with the judges. And I certainly don’t expect everyone to cheer for me.
But somewhere along the way, we’ve confused having thick skin with accepting behavior that shouldn’t be acceptable in the first place. We’ve normalized talking negatively about horses, riders, trainers, and competitors as if it’s simply part of the sport.
And when someone speaks up about it, the response is often, “That’s just how this industry is.” But why does it have to be?
Why is asking people to show a little more kindness and sportsmanship considered being overly sensitive?
Why is the expectation that people should learn to tolerate negativity instead of encouraging people to be more thoughtful about what they say?
I’m perfectly capable of hearing criticism and continuing to walk into the show pen with my head held high. I’ve done it all season. This isn’t about my ability to handle someone else’s opinion. It’s about recognizing that we have an opportunity to make this industry better.
For the amateurs putting everything they have into chasing a dream.
For the trainers working tirelessly behind the scenes.
For the young riders who are watching and learning what sportsmanship looks like from the adults around them.
And for the horses who give us so much and deserve our respect, regardless of where they place.
We talk a lot about wanting to grow this industry, encourage participation, and make horse showing a positive experience.
That starts with the culture we create.
You can be competitive without being cruel. You can have an opinion without making someone else the topic of your entertainment. You can appreciate one horse without tearing down another. And you can absolutely have thick skin while still believing we should treat each other better.
I’m not asking anyone to change their opinion of my horse. I’m asking us to consider changing how we treat people.
Because “that’s just how it’s always been” has never been a good enough reason to stop trying to make something better. And if speaking up about that makes me too sensitive in someone’s eyes, I’m perfectly comfortable with that.
I’ll keep speaking up anyway. ✌️