05/12/2026
One thing I donât think people always realize is that thereâs a real person behind breeder pages.
Most of us arenât giant businesses with employees answering messages all day long. Itâs usually just us⌠responding while scrubbing floors, folding laundry, sanitizing bowls, ordering supplies, setting alarms through the night for moms and babies, scheduling vet appointments, and trying to remember where we even sat our coffee down for the third time.
A lot of these conversations happen while puppies are asleep in our laps or while weâre sitting in a whelping box exhausted running on little sleep but still excited to talk about our dogs because we truly love what we do.
So when someone reaches out asking about:
price,
temperament,
go-home dates,
parents,
photos,
videos,
availability,
our curriculum,
our programâŚ
I genuinely sit there and thoughtfully type out responses because I care. I care about my dogs, I care about where they end up, and I care about helping people make the right decision even if itâs not with me.
And trust me, I fully understand asking questions before bringing home a puppy. You absolutely should. A puppy is a huge commitment emotionally, financially, and time wise.
But sometimes after spending an hour answering questions, sending videos, taking updated photos, explaining health testing, explaining how we raise our puppies, talking through personalities, and pouring emotional energy into the conversationâŚ
it just ends with silence.
I donât even think most people mean to be hurtful when they do it. Life gets busy. People get distracted. Plans change.
But on the breeder side, it can feel discouraging sometimes because these puppies are such a huge part of our hearts and our everyday lives. This isnât just âinventoryâ to us. These are babies weâve stayed awake with, worried over, celebrated milestones with, and poured ourselves into for weeks, months, and years through our programs.
And while weâre here, this is your reminder to please talk things over with your spouse, partner, or family before reaching out to breeders.
So many conversations end with:
âLet me talk to my husbandâ
âMy husband isnât ready.â
âWe didnât realize the investment.â
âWeâre actually going on vacation.â
âThe timing isnât right.â
And those are all valid reasons! Truly.
But having those conversations beforehand helps save everyone a little emotional energy and time.
At the end of the day, breeders are people too. Most of us are just dog lovers with tired eyes, messy buns, laundry piles, and phones full of puppy photos trying our best to raise really good dogs and place them with families who will love them as much as we do.
So if youâve ever reached out to a breeder and changed your mind, thatâs okay. No hard feelings at all.
Just know a simple:
âThank you so much for your time, but we decided to go another direction.â
means more than you probably realize.
