Frisky Feline Behavior Counseling

09/05/2026

Happy Caturday! What are your cat's plans this weekend?
Tell us below🤣👇

09/05/2026

Crazy good sale from our friends Chris the Cat this weekend! These toys are OUR FAVORITES and many of our cat clients rate them a 10/10!😍

Use Code LABORDAY25 for 25% off your order of cat toys, lures etc.

We are not affiliates with this brand, we just REALLY LOVE what they bring to the world of cat!

09/04/2026

Can food puzzles be the answer?
Check out our article in Modern Cat magazine 👇

Why your cat should play with their food

09/03/2026

09/03/2026

🐾 PLEASE SLOW DOWN FOR CATS. 🐾I hate even writing this post, but I honestly don't know how many more posts about cats being hit by cars I can see.

I see it every single day. And every time, it's heartbreaking.
Because I can't help but wonder… does someone have no idea where their cat is? Is someone still waiting for them to come home? Will they ever know what happened?

I don't know the story behind these cats. I don't know why they were outside. Maybe they were outdoor cats. Maybe they were strays. Maybe they were abandoned. Maybe they escaped from their home. And sometimes, it's nobody's fault that a cat got out. Doors open. Screens fail. Cats slip past you when you least expect it. Things happen.

So please, let's not immediately blame the owner.
And let's not automatically blame the driver either.
Sometimes accidents happen. Sometimes there is genuinely nothing someone could have done.
But sometimes slowing down can make a difference.

People often say there are “too many feral cats its impossible,” but my experience has been these truly feral cats who have spent their lives outside often learn to be cautious around traffic and know when to move and not to. The cats being hit can just as easily be someone's indoor cat who slipped out, an abandoned cat looking to just stay alive, or a cat who simply doesn't understand how dangerous a road can be.

And when something like this happens, compassion goes a long way. There may be a family grieving a cat they loved deeply. There may be someone searching for their missing cat and having absolutely no idea what happened to them. There may be a driver who is already devastated because they couldn't stop in time.
We don't always know the whole story. So instead of assuming, blaming, or judging… maybe we can just have a little compassion.

And as drivers, we all can do our part too.
Please slow down. Not just for deer. Not just for dogs. Not just for wildlife. For cats, too.

I don't expect anyone to be able to avoid every animal - every time. I'm asking that when a cat is outside, regardless of how they got there, we give them the same consideration we'd give any other animal. 🐾❤️

08/31/2026

If you had the chance to talk with us one on one, what is one question you would ask?
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08/29/2026

🚨 HEY CAT PEOPLE — WE NEED YOUR HELP! 🚨
Amanda has been invited to be part of a really cool project, and we’re looking for 1–3 families within a 20-minute drive of Bristol, CT to participate within the next two weeks.

We’re looking for cats who are:

🐾 Very people-friendly
🦴 Treat motivated
❤️ Healthy and happy

The family would simply need to be comfortable with Amanda coming to your home for a quick, FREE training session.

Important: Only Amanda and the cats will be recorded. No family members will be on camera.

Your cat could help Amanda with a project that has the potential to be something really exciting!

Think your cat might be the purr-fect fit?
📩 Send me a message to learn more.

08/28/2026

“My cat looked me DEAD in the eyes and did it anyway.” 👀

You know the look. Your cat is on the counter, staring directly at you after you’ve told them 100 times to get off. Or they’re scratching the couch while maintaining full eye contact, knowing you’re going to say something. And you’re standing there thinking, “Oh, so you KNOW. You absolutely know this is wrong. You just don’t want to listen.”

I hear this from families all the time. They truly believe their cat has it out for them, is purposely acting out, or knows which behaviors are “bad” and simply doesn’t care. And honestly? I don’t blame them for thinking that. It can look incredibly intentional.

But let me share something with you, Your cat doesn’t understand “good” and “bad” behavior the way you do. The behaviors we find inappropriate usually serve some kind of purpose for the cat. Peeing outside the litter box? There’s a reason. Fighting with another cat? There’s a reason. Destroying something while looking directly at you? Yep, there’s probably a reason for that too.

In the cat world, these behaviors aren’t about being “bad.” They can be ways of communicating, coping, getting access to something they need, or simply getting a behavior to work for them.

And then there’s the guilty look...You catch them and suddenly they’re scurrying away, crouching, hiding, looking like they’ve just been caught red-pawed.

We love to call that guilt. But what you may actually be seeing is an anticipatory response. If you’ve reacted in a moment of frustration and yelled, made a loud noise, put them in the litter box, sprayed them with a sq**rt bottle, chased them away, or otherwise reacted strongly in the past, your cat may simply be anticipating what comes next because they’ve seen this movie before.

“When this happens, my human does THAT.”
That’s learning. Not necessarily guilt.

And sometimes that direct eye contact before the behavior happens can be part of the same story. Your cat may be checking your response. They may be looking for interaction. Or they may have learned that this particular behavior reliably gets your attention.

You scratch the couch → Mom talks to you.
You jump on the counter → Dad picks you up.
You meow → someone feeds you.

Cats learn patterns. And sometimes, without realizing it, we become part of the pattern that keeps the behavior going. Now, I’m not saying your cat is sitting there running some elaborate manipulation scheme. 😂 I’m saying your cat is learning what works.

So before you decide your cat is deliberately trying to make you crazy, ask yourself one question:“What’s in it for the cat?”
Because your cat probably isn’t thinking, “Today I’m going to ruin my human’s day.”

They’re trying to meet a need, solve a problem, communicate, get something they want, or respond to something happening in their environment.

Your cat isn’t trying to make your life miserable. They’re trying to make their life work. And once you start looking at behavior from their side of the story, that “defiant” look can start to tell you a very different story.

08/26/2026

“Two is better than one”… but what if they don’t seem to agree? 🐱🐱 You bring two cats home from the rescue. They lived together at the shelter without much trouble, so you think, “They already know each other—this should be easy!”

And then you get home… and suddenly things feel very different.
That’s exactly what happened with Abby and Callie.

At the shelter, they co-existed in one room amongst others just fine. But once things got quiet and all that was left in those four walls was the two of them, Callie became unsure of Abby. There was hissing, chasing, swatting, and a lot of uncertainty that left their family feeling uneasy. Well - their family noticed the tension early and reached out for support—and that timing mattered. ❤️

As we watched their relationship unfold, we discovered that these two simply had mismatched personalities and play styles. Abby was often approaching with an invitation to engage, but Callie wasn’t quite sure how to receive it. What looked like conflict was really two cats with very different social styles trying to understand one another.

With some support from their family using our behavior guidance, they began learning each other’s language and finding a rhythm that worked for both of them.

And now? They’re doing so well! 💕

Callie, who was once so unsure of Abby, is finally looking settled and comfortable in her home—and may even be starting to enjoy her new housemate’s company. 🐾

This is why early support can make such a difference. Cat integration doesn’t always mean two cats become inseparable best friends. Sometimes success is simply feeling safe, sharing space, playing together, and learning how to live comfortably side by side.

We’re so happy to see Abby and Callie finding their way—and so glad their family reached out when they did. Here’s to easier days, and a home they can both feel good in TOGETHER. ❤️🐾

08/21/2026

We have had the pleasure of connecting with Dr. Magnotta, fabulous doctor who is so compassionate when that difficult time comes 😭🐈‍⬛

“Dying is hard. We want it to be peaceful,” she said.