05/29/2026
*** "Just a gentle tap" — equestrian culture conditions children to normalise force and coercion ***
As someone with a background in Educational Psychology and Child Development, I find it deeply concerning that children are routinely instructed to hit another sentient being with a weapon in the name of “communication” and “training”.
Equestrian professionals and organisations need to do better.
There is no excuse when we are faced with growing scientific evidence in both animal welfare and child development.
Normalising the use of whips teaches more than just horse training techniques. It conditions children to believe that using force and coercion is acceptable — as long as it is controlled, socially approved, and performed without visible anger.
Children are told:
“It’s fine if it’s just a gentle tap.”
“It’s okay if you stay calm while doing it.”
But emotional regulation does not make coercion ethical.
Children learn social and emotional norms through observation, repetition, and modelling. When adults repeatedly frame physical coercion as acceptable and necessary, we should not pretend that this learning exists in isolation from wider social development.
This conversation is not just about horses.
It’s about what we teach children about power, consent, control, and the treatment of vulnerable beings.