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I’m super excited to pilot two new programs I’ve been putting together specifically designed to address leash reactivity...
04/22/2026

I’m super excited to pilot two new programs I’ve been putting together specifically designed to address leash reactivity in dense urban settings! Enrolling now in the Boston area, with two different service options to fit your needs, goals, and lifestyle. Link below for more info and to schedule an enrollment call!
www.connectthedogs.net/leash-reactivity-pilot

The Bronze Standard is something I’ve been noodling on for a few years now, and will likely continue to noodle on for co...
04/09/2026

The Bronze Standard is something I’ve been noodling on for a few years now, and will likely continue to noodle on for countless more. It’s not a protocol or a framework or something I’m trying to sell; it’s just how I’ve come to describe the way I strive to show up in The Dog World as a guardian and a professional. And being a lifelong anxious perfectionist, I’ve accepted that the striving might be eternal ✨

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It’s not a secret that there’s no One Way to become a dog behavior professional. Most of us end up here by cobbling toge...
01/27/2026

It’s not a secret that there’s no One Way to become a dog behavior professional. Most of us end up here by cobbling together some combination of formal programming or certification, experiential hands-on learning, self-guided continuing education, and (if we’re fortunate enough) apprenticeship under a skilled mentor.

And all of that is great!

But there are key “soft skills” that are just as (or even more!) important than the behavior modification and training strategies that are often the focus of these traditional paths, and finding a way to acquire and hone them can be especially unclear in an unregulated field.

For me, the place that did more for my professional development than any other single source of learning was the MSPCA. When I started working at the shelter, I was coming from the world of private dog training where I’d worked exclusively with pet dogs in loving homes and guardians who had access to resources.

Then I spent three years working full time in the shelter—doing direct animal care, evaluating and managing behavior, cleaning kennels, counseling adopters, taking in surrenders, administering meds and vaccinations, drawing blood, and carrying out humane euthanasia procedures—and I realized how much of the bigger picture I had been missing.

The shelter system is a microcosm of so many of the challenges American society faces as a whole. The impacts of living under late stage white supremacist capitalism show up in animal sheltering nationwide— from breed restrictions in housing, to lack of access to veterinary care, to racist and classist ideas about what appropriate pet care looks like, and on and on and on. With direct exposure to the real impacts of the political climate we and our clients exist in, we’re in a better position to support people and their dogs.

I’m not saying that all of the skill sets I list in this post require shelter work to develop, or that I’m inherently better than other professionals because of my shelter background. What I am positing is that these skills make us all better behavior professionals, and there’s no better place to develop them than the shelter setting.

I’ve been noodling on what it means for a dog to be “territorial” and these are some initial thoughts. I’m all out of no...
08/27/2025

I’ve been noodling on what it means for a dog to be “territorial” and these are some initial thoughts. I’m all out of noodles for the day so I’ve got nothing to add in the caption ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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Sometimes I sit around and noodle about the way we’ve lived with Maeby these past few years, reflecting on what it is ab...
07/22/2025

Sometimes I sit around and noodle about the way we’ve lived with Maeby these past few years, reflecting on what it is about our day-to-day routines and rituals that make sharing our lives with her so (relatively) easy. The thing I often come back to is the strength of our two-way communication.

From the day we brought her home, we’ve prioritized predictability, choice, and clarity. One of the key ways we did this was to attach “predictor” cues to regular events and experiences, and to carefully observe her reactions and preferences.

Before every walk I say “let’s go for a walk” while picking up her harness; on my way to get her a fish skin from the cabinet I tell her I’m getting her a “choo-choo”; when she brings me a toy I say “tug!” before I try to grab it. I’m intentional yet casual in my applications— there’s no formal training sessions, no contrived setups. I just name and narrate the daily flow of our life together, helping her make associations between stimuli over time.

The beautiful thing about this two-way communication is that our “predictor” cues naturally become questions we ask our dogs. If I say “let’s go for a walk” and Maeby doesn’t perk up and trot over to put on her harness, we don’t go. If she brings me a toy but moves away when I say “tug”, I ask her if she wants to be chased instead.

Of course dogs don’t naturally come to us understanding any spoken language. But by thoughtfully pairing words and phrases with consistent outcomes, we give our dogs valuable information about what’s happening to and around them so they can be active participants in their lives instead of passengers along for the ride ✨

In the dog training world, there’s a long history of pseudo-professionals preaching about the importance of “respect”. T...
05/28/2025

In the dog training world, there’s a long history of pseudo-professionals preaching about the importance of “respect”. They’ll insist that behavior challenges are a result of dogs not “respecting” their guardians, and when asked to elaborate on what that means, they reliably rattle off a list of arbitrary rules and boundaries that must be enforced using punishment in order to gain “respect” from your dog.

It’s bu****it. Dogs are not capable of respect.

What dogs *are* capable of is learning whether or not people are safe. Whether or not using certain behaviors in the presence of a person leads to unpleasant outcomes. Whether or not outcomes for using those behaviors are even predictable at all. Whether or not they can trust someone.

I am wholly uninterested in gaining respect from a dog (or a person!) when respect is just a codeword for compliance.

I want dogs to trust me. I want dogs to feel safe around me. I want dogs to be their fullest, most genuine selves in my presence because they have no fear of being punished for doing so.

I’ll take trust over compliance, trust over respect, trust over results. Always.

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Living in a culture that views time as little more than a commodity to be monetized is… depressing. Seeing how that cult...
05/21/2025

Living in a culture that views time as little more than a commodity to be monetized is… depressing. Seeing how that culture negatively impacts peoples’ relationships with their dogs, which should be a source of such joy, is… even more depressing.

The idea that time is always of the essence and behavior becomes cemented if we don’t act fast enough to change it permeates every area of dog training discourse, from bringing new puppies home to addressing complex challenges. And it sucks! For everyone!

Instead of rushing our dogs through life and viewing behavior change as the end goal, let’s all take a little time with our dogs to just be.

Let those sniffs go on for a while. Let them watch that squirrel for a bit. Let them settle in and learn about their world at the pace that feels good for you both, together.

The time we have with our dogs is already tragically short. You’ll never regret slowing down to make the most of it.

One of the most common questions I’m asked is “Why won’t my dog come when called?”And as always, my response is to ask a...
01/29/2025

One of the most common questions I’m asked is “Why won’t my dog come when called?”

And as always, my response is to ask a ton of questions to suss out why a dog might not be responding to their recall cues. Do they know what the word means? Has it been taught under a variety of conditions? Are there competing motivators at play? And perhaps most importantly: what have the consequences been for coming when called?

There are so many ways we might unintentionally punish our dog’s recall behavior in the course of our daily lives. Whether it be removing them from something fun or calling them for something unpleasant, our dogs can learn that coming to us when called results in things they’d rather avoid.

With the thoughtful application of positive reinforcement based principles, we can teach our dogs that their recall cue is cause for celebration. And if you need help with an individualized plan for refreshing your dog’s recall, click the link in bio to book a free Discovery Call!

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eternally grateful to have spent another year working with dogs and the people who love them ✨ see ya in 2025! image des...
12/24/2024

eternally grateful to have spent another year working with dogs and the people who love them ✨ see ya in 2025!

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In animal welfare, there exists the concept of the Five Freedoms. They are:-Freedom from hunger and thirst-Freedom from ...
12/15/2024

In animal welfare, there exists the concept of the Five Freedoms. They are:

-Freedom from hunger and thirst
-Freedom from discomfort
-Freedom from pain, injury, and disease
-Freedom to express normal behavior
-Freedom from fear and distress

The argument for the use of e-collars in dog training often centers around the goal of more “freedom”. The assertion is that these tools provide freedom to express normal behavior (exploring off leash) to dogs that would be spending their life on a leash or otherwise managed or confined by their environment.

I take significant issue with this assertion. The “freedom” that tools like e-collars provide is a tricky one. Sure, the dog may be physically “free” to move their bodies however and wherever they want to. But for the e-collar to be effective as designed, they are doing so under threat of fear, pain, or discomfort. If the e-collar is not effective, they are “free” to put themselves and those around them at risk.

Freedom in one area at the expense of another is not a purer form of freedom, it’s a trade-off. My dog is free to explore and move as she wishes within range of her 50 foot leash, and she’s free from the threat of a shock on her neck if she tries to go further. She’s free to blow off my recall cue while following a good sniff, and she’s free from the danger of following that sniff directly into oncoming traffic.

These are the trade-offs I’m willing to make in the name of ✨ freedom ✨

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When I was expanding my training and behavior knowledge beyond just teaching beginner’s obedience classes, I often came ...
11/26/2024

When I was expanding my training and behavior knowledge beyond just teaching beginner’s obedience classes, I often came across the nebulous concept of “confidence building”.

I saw this vague strategy recommended by other professionals as the remedy for everything from shy puppies to reactive adult dogs. What I *didn’t* see was any consistency in definition nor application of what “confidence building” actually meant.

Over time, I personally started to define “confidence building” as “building a robust history of positive reinforcement for a variety of behaviors under a variety of conditions”. Essentially, I aim to ensure that dogs I’m working with experience desirable outcomes for using their behavior in as many settings as possible. I want them to learn that new and novel stimuli predict good things, and that they can use their behavior to successfully work through challenges.

Critically, building confidence in any learner requires that they have choice and control in their exposure to it. Forcing a dog to confront something they find scary does not build their confidence. Using a leash or food to lure them into interacting with something they’re unsure about is unlikely to teach them that that thing is safe.

To me, a confident dog is one who approaches the world with optimism and curiosity, without fear or worry. And to me, the surest way to achieve that is through the thoughtful application of positive reinforcement based teaching principles.

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