04/22/2026
💔 I believe there are two sacred wounds. Sacred, as our wounds are inextricably related to the work our souls were put here to do.
The first: “I’m not good enough.”
And the second: “I’m alone.”
☯️ In both my personal experience in relationship and my professional experience as a psychotherapist and life coach, I frequently see women (and femme folks) struggling with “abandoned”, commonly leading to anxiety, and men (and masc beings) plagued by “not good enough”, often manifesting in depression. And so goes the anxious / avoidant dance. My “alone” anxiety triggers your need to “fix it,” and your overwhelm with being engulfed triggers my fear of being left — and here we are in the attachment wound tango. 💃
🗣️ If you follow this account, it may have become noticeable that I’ve posted less regularly recently. For anyone who knows me in “the real world”, you’re aware that the past several years of my personal life have been comprised of a veritable maelstrom of illness, death, dying, and grief.
And there is no greater abandonment trigger than the ultimate goodbye — death itself.
🌖 As I’ve journeyed into the dark night of the soul of Loss and her lover, Grief, I have come to know the potent opportunity of this moment for my own personal healing. (I fall into the “abandoned” camp.)
The illusion of the abandonment wound (as it is just that — a gossamer veil) is that we are alone.
🌳 As a highly embodied person (and a somatically trained coach and therapist) the most potent medicine I’ve found for the healing of this sacred wound is Nature herself.
🚐 For over a month, I’ve lived primarily out of my converted van, sleeping and rising with the sun, spending almost all of my time outdoors, and working the land on my family farm. The more callused my bare feet have become and the darker my skin, the deeper my sense of knowing that I am *never* alone in the company of my Divine Mother and Divine Father, the Earth — has become.
👣 Some practices I’ve been engaging in daily that support this healing remembrance: (Continued in comments) 👇 ❤️
