03/24/2026
GwR 575a Death: Decisions/ Support/ Memories -
Revised Content in the 'Search Chessie Posts' spreadsheet
As the number of members in the 'Chesapeake Bay Retriever Love' group ('CBR Love') has risen to ~5,000 currently, there will be more people with old or sick dogs.
There have been many more posts where owners are adjusting to the loss of a much-loved Chessie. I think some posts are created because people know that CBR Love is a caring environment, where much empathy is shown by people who know only too well what it is like to lose a much-loved dog.
The 'Search Chessie Posts' spreadsheet is a service offering for members of the CBR Love group.
It contains a list of the 600+ most useful posts that I have noticed in the various Chesapeake groups over several years. Much useful information used to be lost when posts were just 'used once' and then buried. Now, helpful Chessie posts can be Categorized and Sorted into a large spreadsheet... where they can be found & re-used to provide useful information to Chessie owners.
The majority of these posts are medical, because when people have a sick dog, they are especially eager to learn from the knowledge and experience of others - and to provide the best care they can to their special brown dog..
Here is the list of the Categories in the 'Search Chessie Posts' spreadsheet -
- Death (Decisions, Support, Memories)
- Enrichment
- Equipment
- Food
- Health 1: Head, Ears+
- Health 2: Body (internal)
- Health 3: Legs, Feet, CCL
- Health 4: Skin, Hair, Ticks
- Health 5: DNA, S*x, Butt, P**p, Pups
- Miscellaneous
- Toys
- Training
I am now subdividing the posts in the Category of 'Death' into three separate 'SubCategories' -
DEATH 1 - DECISIONS
The first subdivision will be for Posts relating to 'quality of life' topics and questions about 'When is the right time to help my dog journey on towards the Rainbow Bridge?'. There have been two 'Growing with Raffie' posts about this topic:
GwR 344 When is it Time ?? (contains the Quality of Life/ HHHHHMM Scale)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/chesapeakebayretrieverlove/permalink/802741008601732
and
GwR 452 When is it Time, Agreed ?? (advice on situations where family members are not in agreement, and has the MN Pets 'Quality of Life Assessment' tool) https://www.facebook.com/groups/chesapeakebayretrieverlove/permalink/951095283766303
DEATH 2 - SUPPORT
The second subdivision will be for 'Support' - These are the emotional contributions (such as the words of the Rainbow Bridge), where the post contains an uplifting and caring message.
Yesterday I shared a post that I had written that belongs in this section:
GwR 572 I have been lucky..., but not today (a piece written as my Chessie 'Chester' lay dying in my arms)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/chesapeakebayretrieverlove/permalink/1134574502085046
NOTE: I have not added the hundreds of 'condolences' posts into the spreadsheet, as each of them would only be of limited benefit to an individual when their own dog has died.
DEATH 3 - MEMORIES
The final Category subdivision is for the suggestions for pet memorials, or ways to preserve their memories, such as a framed painting, or a casting of our dog's nose/ paw print.
My hope is that this change will make it easier for group members to ask for the collection of relevant posts that will be of most use to them, for whichever challenge they are facing.
NOTE: I hope that the photo of Raffie lying under the blanket was not too disturbing, or 'triggering' for people. My sincere apologies for anyone who found the image brought back painful memories. Raffie is in good health and was playing by going under the blanket.
Death is a difficult subject to talk or write about. It is normal, natural and will happen sooner or later, to every single one of us and to all of our loved ones.
There is a lot of empathy and support available from the ~5,000 members in the Private, SPAM-free 'Chesapeake Bay Retriever Love' group.
The links above will work for existing members of that group, but non-members will need to JOIN the group first, before they can see those posts or be sent the Links in the 'Search Chessie Posts' spreadsheet. If you are not already a member, then it's time that you JOINED !!
Here's the link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/chesapeakebayretrieverlove
Friends invite their Friends to JOIN the CBR Love group !!