09/02/2026
"My dog doesn't play with other dogs, how do I get my dog to play with other dogs?"
I hear that a lot.
If your dog has had ample opportunity to safely interact with other dogs and your dog has chosen to not interact with other dogs your dog does not want to interact with other dogs so you wanted to play with other dogs, you're doing it for you not your dog!
Because, if your dog wanted to play with other dogs it would.
I don't get together with the boys to watch a game on TV. I don't get together with the boys to go have a beer. I don't get together with the boys for poker night. If I wanted to I would, I do not want to.
A lot of dogs don't interact or interact successfully with other dogs because they lack the experience and many can be quite socially awkward appearing either extremely apprehensive or extremely aggressive.
I've seen several dogs labeled by "K9 behaviorist" as fearful or aggressive and the owners told they could not be around other dogs. The dogs were totally fine, they were just socially awkward and needed the right exposure. Amazing that a one day assessment of a dog might not be accurate!
With proper and thoughtful exposure some dogs will in fact learn to play with other dogs, I see it here all the time.
But let's talk about the Dog version of me, Maxx.
I took Maxx on to train for a national Rescue group donating Training to make him more adoptable. It was clear he wasn't gonna be adopted because of his history and I adopted him.
Now I don't know what the first two years of his life were like but I've had him for four or five years, he's been around countless dogs of different breeds, altered and intact, males and females and has had endless opportunity to interact and play with other dogs.
In the entire time I've owned him I think I've seen him actively play with another dog maybe 7–8 times.
He's just on his own program happy to do his own thing and he doesn't want to play. If he wanted to he would because he's had ample thoughtful exposure.
If your dog doesn't have a history of bad experiences with other dogs or a history of giving other dogs bad experiences, it's been exposed to a variety of other dogs in a thoughtful situation for extended periods of time and it doesn't want to play, your dog does not want to play.
Let your dog do what it wants to do, don't try to coerce your dog into doing what you want it to do.
Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
And that's Ronin the GSD in the video. I guarantee any K9 behaviorist would've labeled him aggressive in even a two week evaluation. He wasn't aggressive he was socially awkward. He just didn't know how to play with the other kids on the playground until he got some thoughtful exposure.