20/03/2026
I’ve been noticing a pattern lately… dogs that simply can’t be handled.
Touch their collar, they resist.
Try to hold them, they redirect.
Ask for compliance when it actually matters, and they push back.
And while yes, pain can absolutely be a factor and should always be ruled out… a lot of these dogs aren’t in pain.
They just haven’t learned how to cope with being handled.
Somewhere along the way, we’ve started avoiding this part of raising dogs.
More distraction. More bribery. More “keep them busy so they don’t notice what’s happening” especially in places like the vet.
But here’s the problem…
We’re not reducing conflict.
We’re often layering it.
A dog that already feels unsure is now being touched or restrained, while also trying to engage with food or a toy. That’s not clarity, that’s internal conflict.
And when this becomes the strategy, dogs don’t actually learn how to handle pressure… they just learn how to cope when it suits them.
Real life doesn’t always give us that option.
At some point, your dog will need to be held, restrained, or guided through something uncomfortable and in those moments, we don’t have time to negotiate.
This is why I place so much importance on teaching handling early.
Not through pain.
But through calm, controlled restraint where the dog may initially resist, feel uncomfortable, and then learn how to soften, switch off, and accept the experience.
That’s the part we often skip.
The puppy wriggles, so we let go.
The dog resists, so we back off.
And over time, the dog learns that resisting handling works.
Then as they get older, that resistance can turn into redirecting, avoidance, or escalation.
And now we have a dog that not only feels uncomfortable being handled… but also believes they don’t have to accept it.
The goal isn’t to overpower the dog.
And it’s not about doing anything extreme.
It’s about teaching them, in a fair and controlled way, how to move through discomfort and come out the other side calm.
Alongside this, I build strong cooperation through play, engagement, and reinforcement so I have a dog that wants to work with me, but can also be guided when it really counts.
In this clip you see Voss my puppy and what it started out like For context: the barking is his sister in the crate, not him.