13/06/2026
It is incredibly frustrating when you buy a mountain of toys, get all hyped up to play, and your dog just blankly stares at you—or worse, grabs the toy and runs off to the opposite corner of the room.
You want a fun, interactive game, but they just want to hoard the prize.
If this is happening to you, there is a very good chance you accidentally trained them to do it.
When a dog has to fight too hard or struggle for too long to win a toy during tug, the game stops being fun. It becomes hard work.
Eventually, your dog figures out that it is much more enjoyable to just keep the toy and have a good chew by themselves, rather than bringing it back to do battle with you all over again.
The good news is that you can reset the rules of the game. Here is how to fix it:
1. **Get a friend to help:** It can really speed things up if you get a friend to help out. Dogs often play differently with a fresh face, especially someone who is good craic and brings plenty of positive energy.
2. **Make them play badly:** Have your friend initiate a game of tug with your dog. But here is the catch: they have to play badly. They need to let your dog win a lot.
3. **Fake a genuine win:** Most dogs are clever enough to know when they have genuinely won versus when a human has just given up and let go. If you just drop the toy, it feels like a letdown to them. To fake a genuine win, use a very weak grip. Literally hold the toy with just a single finger and thumb to start, letting it slip from your grasp easily.
4. **Plant the seed for fetch:** Once winning becomes effortless, the psychology shifts. The dog soon gets into the habit of returning to the human with the toy because they want to restart that easy, rewarding game. Without even realizing it, the foundation for fetch is set.
5. **Build up the distance:** After a while, when the dog is happily bringing the toy back, you can occasionally win the game. When you do, immediately throw the toy just a meter or two away and let the dog bring it right back to you to keep the fun going.
6. **Step back in:** At this point, it is just a matter of you joining the game again. Show your dog that the rules have officially changed, and that you are now much more craic to play with than you used to be.
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