14/10/2026
One of the biggest mistakes I see owners make is believing their dog needs constant attention to feel loved. They follow you around the house all day, constantly being stroked , demanding affection , while never being taught to switch off unless they are next to you.
Im going to client’s who have never left their dog in years 🙈 they can’t go on holidays or even go to family events unless the dog goes and although it’s great to take our dog places reality is we are going to have to leave our dog at some parts of their lives.
Your dog needs to learn that it’s perfectly okay to be away from you, to settle on their own and to switch off. Social independence is a key skill that you will need in every day life. Crate training, place work, structured downtime and teaching your dog to self-soothe are all important life skills.
If your dog struggles with separation anxiety they try and change your habits
✅Stop rewarding constant following.
You don’t need to respond every time your dog gets up and follows you. Calmly continue what you’re doing.
✅Teach a “place” or settle.
Give your dog a clear area where they can relax while you move around the house.
✅Build separation gradually by using a crate / pen / gate. Start with very short periods where your dog is comfortable without direct interaction. Gradually increase the duration.
✅Reward calm independence.
If your dog chooses to lie down, relax or occupy themselves without demanding your attention , quietly reinforce that behaviour.
✅ Create daily downtime.
Your dog doesn’t need constant entertainment. Build periods into the day where they are expected to switch off and rest. Use your crate/pen.
✅ Make affection on your terms.
Give affection because you have decided to, rather than teaching your dog that demanding, pawing, nudging or barking gets them attention. Remember affection at the right time is important don’t allow your dog to get addicted to your affection.
✅ Practise being apart well before you need too. Don’t wait until the day your dog has to cope alone for several hours. Independence is a skill that should be built gradually as part of everyday life.
And remember if your dog already shows genuine separation related issues such as panic, pacing , destructive behaviour, excessive vocalisation or inability to settle when left , don’t simply think it will get better because it won’t , Work with your dog and seek help from a professional trainer.
Building social independence isn’t being uncaring or cruel it’s preparing your dog for real world we live in.
