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There is something about sinking your hand into fur that makes the world seem a better place x Home with my boy tonight ...
10/06/2026

There is something about sinking your hand into fur that makes the world seem a better place x

Home with my boy tonight πŸ’™

10/06/2026

It's exhausting.

I know everyone just wants that one thing that makes it stop.

The answer that everyone else seems to know.
That one tip.
The missing technique.
The secret.

Reactivity is one of the most challenging behaviours a dog can have.

It will test your patience, your timing and your consistency, time and time again.

Above all else, that's what it requires.

Consistency.

"Sometimes" is a big problem with reactive dogs.

Sometimes we reward.
Sometimes we don't.

Sometimes we move away.
Sometimes we don't.

Sometimes we have a plan.
Sometimes we don't.

And that can keep both you and your dog stuck in that never-ending trigger/reaction cycle.

So why does a checklist help?

Because preparation matters.

And that prep work doesn't happen when you're standing in front of a trigger.

That's where you're putting all that practice into action.

The skills.
The rewards.
The timing.
The plan.

That's the reality of living with a reactive dog.

You need a plan before you need the plan.

There is a very small rumour that my reviews tab is working again πŸ™ Feel free to pop over and test it out xx Happy Wedne...
10/06/2026

There is a very small rumour that my reviews tab is working again πŸ™

Feel free to pop over and test it out xx

Happy Wednesday πŸ’œ

09/06/2026

⚠️ SHARE THIS. It could save a dog's life.
NEVER feed your dog a cooked bone.

Ever.

Not a roasted marrow bone.
Not a rotisserie chicken carcass.
Not a smoked bone from a pet store.
Not a bone left over from last night's dinner.
Not "just this once."
Not ever.

If you are new to raw or fresh-food feeding, this is one of the most important things you will read. If you are an experienced raw feeder, please share this for the pet parents who are just starting out. This information saves lives.

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🦴 First: What Makes a Raw Bone Safe

Raw bone is a living tissue matrix. It is composed of two primary structural components working in concert:

1️⃣ Mineral crystals (primarily hydroxyapatite: calcium and phosphorus) which provide hardness and compressive strength

2️⃣ Collagen fibers which weave through and between the mineral crystals, providing flexibility, tensile strength, and the ability to absorb force without catastrophic fracture

This combination is what makes raw bone behave the way it does under chewing pressure. Rather than shattering, a raw bone compresses, bends, and splits along predictable lines producing fragments that are soft enough to be ground down further by the teeth, mixed with stomach acid, and digested.

A correctly sized raw meaty bone, fed to a dog who chews rather than gulps and is appropriately supervised, carries substantially less risk than a cooked bone. Raw bones have been part of the evolutionary diet of wild canids for millions of years.

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πŸ”₯ What Heat Does to That Matrix: The Science

This is where the danger begins. Understanding the mechanism is what makes this rule non-negotiable.

When bone is exposed to heat, whether through roasting, boiling, smoking, baking, or any cooking process, something irreversible happens to the collagen component:
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The collagen denatures.

Collagen is a protein. Like all proteins, it is highly sensitive to sustained heat. At cooking temperatures, the triple-helix structure of collagen unravels and breaks down. The flexible, fibrous scaffolding that held the mineral crystals together and gave the bone its capacity to absorb force without shattering is destroyed.

What remains is the mineral crystal component, hydroxyapatite, without its structural partner.

The result is a bone that is:

πŸ”΄ Brittle
β–ͺ️ It has lost the flexibility that allowed it to compress under pressure

πŸ”΄ Unpredictable
β–ͺ️ It no longer splits along controlled lines; it fractures randomly

πŸ”΄ Sharp
β–ͺ️ The fracture edges are jagged, angular, and rigid rather than soft and rounded

πŸ”΄ Non-digestible
β–ͺ️ Stomach acid can partially dissolve bone minerals over time, but large, sharp fragments may likely persist long enough to cause injury before significant breakdown occurs.

This is not a matter of degree. It is not that cooked bones are slightly more dangerous than raw bones. The structural integrity of the bone has been fundamentally and permanently altered. There is no cooking method, no temperature, no duration that makes a cooked bone safe.

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πŸ₯ What Happens Inside Your Dog's Body

When a dog chews a cooked bone, it fractures into sharp, rigid shards. While some dogs may pass these fragments without incident, others can experience serious complications.

From there, the path of injury follows a predictable progression:

Stage 1: The Stomach
Sharp fragments enter the stomach. In some cases, stomach acid and muscular contractions of the stomach wall (peristalsis) may further fragment the shards. In others, particularly with larger fragments or denser bones, the pieces pass through relatively intact.

Stage 2: The Pylorus and Small Intestine
The pyloric valve between the stomach and small intestine is a narrow passage. Sharp bone fragments passing through can lacerate the pyloric mucosa. Once in the small intestine (a thin-walled, highly vascular structure), a sharp shard moving through peristaltic contractions can puncture or perforate the intestinal wall.

Stage 3: Perforation and Peritonitis
An intestinal perforation allows gut contents to leak into the abdominal cavity. This triggers bacterial peritonitis, a life-threatening systemic infection. Symptoms include sudden severe abdominal pain, vomiting, lethargy, fever, and collapse. This is a surgical emergency. Without immediate veterinary intervention, it is fatal.

Stage 4: Emergency Surgery
Surgical repair requires locating and closing the perforation, thoroughly lavaging the abdominal cavity, and managing the resulting infection with aggressive intravenous antibiotics. Even with prompt surgery, outcomes are not guaranteed.
Some dogs do not survive this.

‼️Other complications can occur even without perforation, including choking, esophageal obstruction, constipation from bone fragments, re**al bleeding, and intestinal blockage requiring emergency treatment.

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πŸ“Œ A Critical Note for Home-Cooked Diet Feeders

If you feed your dog a home-cooked fresh diet, which is a wonderful, nutritionally sound choice when properly formulated, please pay particular attention here.

The temptation when cooking for your dog is to treat mealtimes similarly to how you cook for yourself. A roasted chicken carcass looks like a perfectly natural thing to offer a dog. A pot of bone broth with softened bones looks nourishing and wholesome.

The bones from that carcass are cooked. They are not safe to feed.

Bone broth, where bones are simmered until soft, is actually a separate case worth clarifying: broth made by long-simmering bones until they are soft enough to crumble to powder can be safe, but only if the bones are fully dissolved into the liquid and not fed as intact pieces. Any bone that retains structural integrity after cooking, regardless of how soft it feels, can still splinter unpredictably when chewed under pressure.

NOTE: Bone broth itself contains very little calcium unless the dissolved bone material is actually consumed.

For home-cooked diet feeders, calcium supplementation should come from correctly dosed calcium hydroxyapatite, seaweed calcium, calcium citrate, calcium carbonate, or finely ground eggshell powder, never from cooked bones.

This is one of the most important reasons why home-cooked diets need to be properly formulated. The substitutions matter. The sources matter. The details matter.

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βœ… What TO Feed: Safe Raw Bone Options

For dogs who can have raw meaty bones (RMBs), the following guide will help your dog stay safe:

βœ”οΈ Appropriately sized RMBs is vital. A bone should never be small enough to be swallowed whole.

βœ”οΈ Choose soft, meaty raw bones for beginners or small dogs. Raw chicken necks and feet (small dogs), raw chicken frames, raw duck necks and feet, raw duck frames, raw turkey necks (medium to large dogs), whole raw quail, for example.

βœ”οΈ Recreational raw bones for larger dogs include raw beef marrow bones (fed with supervision and limited chewing time to reduce the risk of tooth fractures); raw beef, pork, and lamb necks; raw brisket bones.

βœ”οΈ Always supervise❗️ No dog should be left alone with a bone, regardless of experience.

βœ”οΈ Know your dog. Gulpers, resource guarders, brachycephalic breeds, dogs with dental disease or prior GI surgery require individual assessment before raw bone feeding.

❌ No weight-bearing bones from large animals (beef femur, knuckle bones, turkey legs) for aggressive chewers. These are dense enough to fracture teeth even when raw

This is not a matter of preference or feeding philosophy. It is rooted in anatomy, physiology, biomechanics, and veterinary pathology.

The collagen matrix is either intact or it is not. There is no middle ground. There is no safe cooked bone.

Please share this post. Paste it in your dog groups. Send it to the friend who just started home cooking for their dog. Tag the person who offered their dog a leftover bone at Christmas dinner.

This information is free. It costs nothing to share it πŸ™.
And it could save a dog's life tonight. 🐾

β€” The Holistic Canine πŸ’š

🐾 For raw and home-cooked diet formulation built to NRC standards:
πŸ‘‰ theholisticcanine.us

πŸ“– Fresh-Food Feeding Explained β€” the science of feeding fresh food correctly:
πŸ‘‰ theholisticcanine.us/ebook/

09/06/2026

I AIN’T REALLY MISBEHAVING - I’M JUST DOING WHAT DOGS DO!

What we may label as bad behaviour is often nothing more than a dog behaving exactly as nature designed them to.

Dogs are not born understanding human rules, household etiquette or the expectations we place on them.
They don't automatically know that some things are not meant to be chewed, that food left on a countertop is strictly off-limits or that they’re expected to walk calmly on a leash.

When we bring dogs into our lives, we expect them to automatically adapt to a world that is not naturally theirs.
We confine them to houses and yards, expect them to fit into our busy schedules, keep quiet and ignore the countless natural temptations that surround them every day.

When we view behaviour through this lens, frustration should begin to give way to understanding.

Understanding behaviour does not mean allowing dogs to do whatever they want. It means recognizing that behaviour serves a purpose and is fulfilling a need.

Instead of punishing a dog for behaving naturally, we can guide them towards behaviours that are acceptable. We can prevent rehearsal of unwanted behaviour, teach new skills, meet their physical, emotional and social needs, and provide appropriate outlets for their natural needs.

Dogs who are given opportunities to sniff, explore, chew, forage, play, problem-solve and engage with their environment are far better equipped to cope with the expectations placed on them.

The more we understand why dogs do what they do, the more successful we can become at helping them navigate our human world.

When we stop viewing every unwanted behaviour as misbehaviour and start seeing it as communication, we shift from trying to control our dogs to supporting and meeting their needs.

One of the greatest gifts we can give our dogs is our understanding.

Out exploring the airfield before the black clouds arrived 😍 x Love them both xxβ€οΈπŸ’™
09/06/2026

Out exploring the airfield before the black clouds arrived 😍 x

Love them both xx

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Had this gorgeous girlie for walkies on friday and she was very quiet and subdued and not my River at all 😞I am pleased ...
09/06/2026

Had this gorgeous girlie for walkies on friday and she was very quiet and subdued and not my River at all 😞

I am pleased to say today's walkies were back to normal and shes back to bouncing everywhere 😍

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08/06/2026

One sofa five babies πŸ’• πŸ’œ ❀️ xx

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