19/05/2026
I recently saw someone say that “force free training is killing dogs” and that we need to “bring common sense back” into dog training.
Honestly, I think the reality is much more complicated than that.
Firstly, I don’t really label myself as “force free.” I describe myself as reward based.
But what I personally think is harming dogs most right now isn’t “fluffy training.”
It’s:
dogs being bred with very little thought for suitability as pets
people getting breeds they don’t truly understand
a lack of education before bringing dogs home
a throwaway culture where dogs are expected to fit instantly into human lives
confusion and conflict within the dog training industry itself
and dogs not having their emotional and breed-specific needs properly understood
Owners are overwhelmed.
One trainer says one thing. Another says the complete opposite. Social media pushes quick fixes and extremes.
And then people watch incredibly trained dogs on TV or online and believe that’s what “normal” should look like.
But many of those dogs are highly skilled dogs working with highly skilled trainers. They are rehearsed, managed and trained for very specific environments.
Yet owners come away believing their pet dog should naturally be that connected, calm and responsive all the time, often without understanding the genetics, emotions, stress levels or instincts sitting underneath behaviour.
Meanwhile, real dogs are often stressed, over-aroused, under-slept, over-exercised, misunderstood, or simply not suited to the lives they’ve ended up in.
That doesn’t mean boundaries don’t matter. It doesn’t mean guidance doesn’t matter. And it doesn’t mean dogs should never experience frustration.
But I do think understanding behaviour, emotion, genetics and nervous system regulation matters far more than labelling trainers as “soft” or “balanced.”
Most owners are not bad people. Most are trying their best with very little clarity.
And most dogs need understanding, guidance and fulfilment far more than conflict 🤍
I also think we’ve created incredibly unrealistic expectations of what pet dogs should be.
People compare their overwhelmed adolescent dog to highly trained TV dogs,
social media clips, or polished “before and after” videos online, without seeing the years of training, management, genetics and skill sitting behind those moments.
Real dogs aren’t robots. And real behaviour change is rarely instant.