19/05/2026
I recently saw someone say that âforce free training is killing dogsâ and that we need to âbring common sense backâ into dog training.
Honestly, I think the reality is much more complicated than that.
Firstly, I donât really label myself as âforce free.â I describe myself as reward based.
But what I personally think is harming dogs most right now isnât âfluffy training.â
Itâs:
dogs being bred with very little thought for suitability as pets
people getting breeds they donât truly understand
a lack of education before bringing dogs home
a throwaway culture where dogs are expected to fit instantly into human lives
confusion and conflict within the dog training industry itself
and dogs not having their emotional and breed-specific needs properly understood
Owners are overwhelmed.
One trainer says one thing. Another says the complete opposite. Social media pushes quick fixes and extremes.
And then people watch incredibly trained dogs on TV or online and believe thatâs what ânormalâ should look like.
But many of those dogs are highly skilled dogs working with highly skilled trainers. They are rehearsed, managed and trained for very specific environments.
Yet owners come away believing their pet dog should naturally be that connected, calm and responsive all the time, often without understanding the genetics, emotions, stress levels or instincts sitting underneath behaviour.
Meanwhile, real dogs are often stressed, over-aroused, under-slept, over-exercised, misunderstood, or simply not suited to the lives theyâve ended up in.
That doesnât mean boundaries donât matter. It doesnât mean guidance doesnât matter. And it doesnât mean dogs should never experience frustration.
But I do think understanding behaviour, emotion, genetics and nervous system regulation matters far more than labelling trainers as âsoftâ or âbalanced.â
Most owners are not bad people. Most are trying their best with very little clarity.
And most dogs need understanding, guidance and fulfilment far more than conflict đ¤
I also think weâve created incredibly unrealistic expectations of what pet dogs should be.
People compare their overwhelmed adolescent dog to highly trained TV dogs,
social media clips, or polished âbefore and afterâ videos online, without seeing the years of training, management, genetics and skill sitting behind those moments.
Real dogs arenât robots. And real behaviour change is rarely instant.