04/08/2021
The worst piece of advice I have ever received was from someone I really looked up to when I was 13 years old
This horrible piece of advice cost me and my family hundreds of pounds and caused us to waste 4 years of our lives going around in circles…
Looking back, I wouldn’t have got where I am today without having this advice so in way I am grateful,
However, this piece of advice is still circling. Its outdated and causing TONS to go around in circles trying to train their dog,
Sadly, with most dog ending up being rehomed or into rescue.
SO let’s talk about this ‘advice’, and I will begin where all great stories begin,
Once a upon time…
We brought a puppy into our home; we went to puppy classes and did all the training that we were told to do.
Then one day, our puppy was picked on by an older dog, at the time we didn’t knew what that meant, and our puppy, Bobby, seemed fine…
However, as he grew older, he started to growl and bark more,
It started off with one dog here and then then snowballed into EVERY dog.
We had no clue what was happening, and my parents thought it was the dogs fault, every day it got more stressful and stressful where my parents thought about giving him up.
*CUE Training Advice*
My sought out a local dog trainer who had worked in the police prior to help us.
His advice was:
‘Put your dog in its place, you need to be alpha, don’t EVER let them dominate you, if they do, do this’
This was followed by pinning Bobby to the ground, forcing him to stay there.
Deep down this did not feel right, I could sense Bobby had no clue what he did wrong and was very uncomfortable. After that he hid in his bed.
Likewise, when we were on a walk to stop him dominating us, every time he pulled we had to put him in his place by pulling so hard on the lead the dogs the lead tightened and threw the dog back.
Again, I thought, they were only sniffing?
If the dog peed in the house then we had shove their nose in it to LEARN.
By having this level of force, the dogs did behave…
Or as I quickly learnt, they learnt to be afraid of us and were so scared of what could happen they did nothing at all, which looked like ‘good behaviour’
But guess what? This made ZERO difference to Bobbys behaviour towards other dogs, in fact it just got worse.
Which is why I starting my journey into training, I KNEW there must be another way and there was.
We implemented it straight away and saw instant progress.
Hence why I am now teaching all you of amazing humans!
This advice is outdated, does not solve the problem and just causes dog to be afraid of us and some dogs will even bite back instead of hiding.
Here’s the REALLY contradicting part,
When you have a relationship with your dog trusts you, listens to you and WANTS to be around because of the pleasure you give them, the fastest and easier the problem decreases.
The biggest lesson I learnt and teach every day is this:
Dogs WANT to work for us, they WANT to behave calmly – they just don’t know how. Its our duty to teach them without fear or dominance but through understanding, kindest and with training steps that make sense to your dog, so they understand what they have to do.
Also, this photo popped into my inbox this morning from one of my fave clients, her dog was reactive to dogs, people, cars, and bikes.
Now look at her go! They are in REAL life with all the things that USED TO stress out, instead she is just chilling and being with her owner, enjoying the walk ahead
AND her owner is equally relaxed, just walking her dog without any dominance, force or needing to be an alpha (technically her dog already see her as the best human )
If you are wondering what the secrets are behind this and how you could have this too, then join me a special workshop I am hosting just for you.
Where we will dive into the methods I teach, the truth behind how dogs see and process the world and three steps you can take in 24 hours to start moving towards stress-free walks
Monday the 9th of august @ 7pm BST
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