06/08/2026
Frustrated greeter? Food isn’t always the answer! 🐕👇
Here’s young Wesley building up his toy play!
When a dog wants to play with other dogs so badly that they’re lunging, barking, and experiencing intense leash frustration, pulling out a treat doesn’t always cut it. In fact, if food is used as a bribe, it can actually create more internal conflict and ramp up their frustration even more! 🧠💥
That’s why I love teaching frustrated dogs to tug, chase, and play with toys instead. Here’s why the toy pivot works so well:
🔥 Energy Matching: A dog amped up on impulse frustration can’t easily drop down to a calm “sit and take a treat” state. Interactive play matches their high arousal level and redirect that power safely back to you.
🎾 Tapping into Prey Drive: Chasing, grabbing, and tugging channel those natural predatory motor patterns. It releases feel-good endorphins and turns high-arousal energy into fun with the handler, rather than fixating on the trigger.
🌱 Building Value: As you can see in the first clip, Wesley wasn’t that bothered about toys outside at first—he preferred treats, sniffing, or marking (he is a young boy after all! 😅). But as the week went on, he built up serious drive, to the point where he was happily playing right around other dogs!
Watching a dog go from fixated and frustrated to enthusiastically choosing to play with their human is the absolute best feeling. Great work, Wesley! 👏🐶✨
Does your dog struggle with leash frustration around other dogs? Let me know in the comments! 👇