29/05/2026
When we started fostering Ellie, it was clear that she had a lack of confidence in the world...
So it would have been really easy to focus on the big reactions that she would sometimes have.
But what we focused on were the seemingly less significant feelings she was having, where there was very little actually happening around us.
Ellie was very nervous on walks almost the entire time. I knew this because her tail was tucked almost always, she was hyper vigilant, scanning constantly and the most minor sounds could really spook her.
And this also showed in the garden at home as well for a long time. When we first had she had to be supervised very closely and we were constantly bringing her in when she was finding things overwhelming.
It was very clear that Ellie needed a boost in confidence. But Ccnfidence doesn’t grow from repeatedly feeling overwhelmed. It grows from success, safety and predictability.
This means we almost exclusively avoided other people and dogs as best we could. We picked quiet places where she could be on a long line and just be herself. And guess what? She was successfully enjoying her walks more and more each time.
Did we have setbacks? Of course. The amount of frustrations we'd have because other people couldn't control their dogs, or the amount of times we'd bump into people at corners. But generally, her walks were enjoyable.
So how did this help? Having that inner confidence meant that minor sounds stopped being so significant, scanning became less about watching for triggers and more about taking the sights and smells in. She started actually exploring, sniffing with her nose, tracking scents and digging. Her tail is very rarely tucked on a walk and her engagement with us is so much better.
If you're struggling with a nervous dog, maybe it’s time to stop prioritising exposure and start prioritising successful experiences.