24/08/2026
Trust, Distance & The Freedom to Make Good Choices 🌊🐾
There is something incredibly rewarding about watching my two dogs lying calmly at a distance on the beach while I walk away from them along the seafront.
They know I am moving away, yet they remain exactly where I asked them to stay. Even with ducks moving around in the water, they resist the temptation to get up and follow, and instead hold their position until I return to them.
For many dogs, this could be an incredibly challenging situation. The beach is full of movement, smells, wildlife, sounds and freedom. The opportunity to chase or investigate can be hugely exciting.
But this is where trust in the process becomes so important.
I don't want my dogs to stay simply because they are frightened of what might happen if they don't. I want them to understand the exercise, trust my communication, and have the confidence to make the right choice even when something more exciting is happening around them.
There is no force, no intimidation and no negative punishment being used to make them stay there.
Instead, we have built this through communication, consistency, relationship, boundaries and countless smaller experiences that have taught them that listening to me is worthwhile.
The ability to calmly exist in an environment without feeling the need to react to everything around them is such an important life skill.
It's not about creating robots who are afraid to move.
It's about creating dogs who have the freedom to make good choices because they understand what is expected of them.
And when I eventually turn around and walk back towards them, those two dogs haven't just been waiting—they've been practising something incredibly valuable:
self-control, trust, patience and confidence.
That's what makes moments like this so rewarding.
Not because they were forced to stay.
But because they chose to trust the process. ❤️