12/09/2026
This is so very true, we all love our dogs but they need structure and boundaries, it’s not about throwing food on the ground to distract them, get their attention, what was the food for, did they do right or wrong.?
This is why so many dogs are in rescue and can’t be rehomed because of someone , some trainer got the training wrong, they deserve more than that, stuck in kennels in rescue is no life 😢
Can we please normalise this:
You can love your dog and still have boundaries.
You should have boundaries.
And saying “no” is not cruelty — it’s care.
We’re seeing more and more examples of “love” that are actually harming dogs. If your version of love is hurting your dog, it’s time to take a step back and rethink.
We’re also seeing so many people surrendering who genuinely feel they love their dog — but everything has fallen apart, or is about to, because there’s a huge misunderstanding about what love actually looks like.
I understand that some training approaches say “ignore the bad and reward the good.”
But here’s the problem: the dog has no idea that what it’s doing is “bad.”
They’re not being stubborn. They’re not being naughty.
They simply haven’t been shown what the rules are.
One of the most common things we’re seeing right now is dogs who genuinely don’t know they’re doing anything wrong. They’ve never been told “no.” They’ve never been given boundaries. They’ve never been shown what’s expected of them.
So they become a whirlwind in the house — jumping, mouthing, stealing, pestering, bouncing off the walls — and the humans are overwhelmed, the dog is confused, and the whole situation collapses.
A few big examples:
• Obesity
This is a hard truth, but it needs saying: obesity is killing dogs.
It puts huge strain on joints, organs, and in some breeds it contributes to things like IVD and all sorts of preventable problems.
Food isn’t love. Keeping them healthy is.
• Never saying no / no leadership
If a dog doesn’t understand their boundaries or what’s expected, they don’t feel secure.
Dogs thrive on structure. They relax when they know you’ve got things handled.
• Advocating for your dog
If your dog is on lead and some “he’s friendly!” off‑lead dog comes charging over, you step in.
You get between them.
You protect your dog’s space.
You don’t let someone else’s lack of control become your dog’s problem.
Love without boundaries isn’t kindness.
It’s chaos.
And it’s the dogs who pay for it.
If we want fewer dogs surrendered, fewer families in crisis, and fewer dogs labelled “problems,” we have to start being honest about what love actually looks like: safety, clarity, consistency, and the confidence that comes from knowing where the lines are.
*Frankie doing his smiley face again