27/08/2026
🐾 HANDS OFF OTHER PEOPLE’S DOGS! 🐾
We’re away on holiday and tonight we decided to head to the pub for dinner.
Scamp was brilliant. He settled beside us, relaxed, curled up and eventually fell into a lovely sleepy slumber. ❤️
Then, on two separate occasions, people decided they wanted to stroke him.
Scamp backed away.
That was his answer.
He didn’t move towards them. He didn’t invite interaction. He quite clearly said, in the only way he could:
“No thank you.”
I even explained that they should let him come to them if he wanted attention.
He didn’t.
Unfortunately, the attempts to touch him continued until eventually Scamp barked.
That startled them.
And afterwards I overheard the comment:
“A woman shouldn’t own a dog like that.”
You can imagine how well that went down with me! 🙈
But this is exactly why I want to talk about this.
Dogs are gorgeous. Of course we want to say hello to them.
But we do not have an automatic right to touch somebody else’s dog.
Backing away.
Turning the head.
Leaning away.
Moving behind their owner.
Avoiding eye contact.
Walking away.
These are all perfectly valid ways for a dog to say:
“Please don’t touch me.”
If those quieter signals are repeatedly ignored, sometimes a dog has to communicate more loudly.
A bark.
A growl.
A snap.
And suddenly the dog is labelled as the problem.
I work with dogs who have become worried or reactive around strangers, and sometimes part of their history is simply that people have repeatedly entered their space and touched them when they were uncomfortable.
We also have a habit of reaching straight over a dog to stroke their head — something many dogs really don’t enjoy, particularly from a stranger.
So please…
🐾 Ask the owner before touching a dog.
🐾 If they say no, don’t take it personally.
🐾 If the dog moves away, respect that answer too.
🐾 Allow the dog to choose whether they want to interact with you.
Owners who say “please don’t touch my dog” aren't necessarily being rude or overprotective.
Sometimes we’re simply listening to what our dogs are telling us.
Respecting a dog’s “no” is one of the best ways we can help prevent that dog ever feeling the need to shout.
Please don’t set dogs up to fail. ❤️
Building calm, confident dogs.
Bristol Dog Days – Dog Training