26/08/2026
This is why I don't recommend random "puppy play dates".
I know. I know. But before you label me as "fun police", please hear me out.
One of the first things I see people do when they get a new puppy is desperately search for other puppies and dogs to meet in the park.
And I completely understand why. We want our dogs to be social, to have friends, to enjoy other dogs.
But in my experience, when these sessions aren't managed properly, they can create more problems than they solve.
Either the puppy gets overwhelmed and starts to become anxious and fearful around other dogs, or they become so boisterous that they learn this is just how we play with everyone.
And the moment you need them not to play, because maybe you are in a rush because you need to get back to work, that's when frustration kicks in.
And frustration, anxiety, and fear are three of the biggest drivers of what we call "reactivity".
So then you have a dog that barks and lunges towards other dogs, and people are often surprised because they were so sociable as a puppy.
But actually, it makes complete sense. They were never taught that another dog doesn't always mean full-on play.
If I could do one thing differently with my own dog, before I was a professional and knew better, it would be this. I wouldn't take her to the park for random unmanaged meetings. I genuinely think it creates more problems than it does good.
So what's the alternative?
This week I ran a group session with Rin and Bessie, two incredibly sociable, everyone-is-my-best-friend puppies with very similar play styles. I matched them deliberately.
Crucially, both had done a lot of work independently before we brought them together. They already had some skills, which is why today went so well.
Here is what we actually did:
We started with coexisting rather than greeting.
Treats scattered on the floor (with both pups at a distance) to keep noses busy and bodies calmer.
Moving in arcs rather than straight lines.
Both puppies aware of one another, both learning that another dog nearby doesn't automatically mean "game on".
We practised recall away from each other. Not because we didn't want them to play, but because coming away doesn't mean the fun is over. It means we are just having a little break. And then back we go. That is such an important thing for a puppy to learn.
We watched their body language. Are they still enjoying this? Is the play getting too fast, too frantic, with no natural breaks? That is when we step in, not to stop the fun, but to help them regulate and come back down again. Because at this age, they simply cannot do that for themselves.
And then we let them play. Properly. Chasey chase, one on top of the other, squishing themselves underneath. Absolute joy to watch.
And then we settled near each other again.
Because all these skills matter: knowing how to play with another dog, and knowing how to just exist calmly near one another too.
Both clients said the same thing afterwards: it is so much harder to do this in a park where other people won't listen, won't move their dog, won't be on the same page.
Working with someone who is actually on board, and puppies who are a good match for one another, makes all the difference.
Rin and Bessie were absolutely brilliant. And so were their owners. They put in the work before today, and that is exactly what made today possible.
As it was such a success, I have decided to organise more group sessions - but these will only be open to previous/existing one-to-one clients to make sure we all get the most out of it.
I don't have a set structure for these as of yet, as they will likely be shaped around you and your dog and their needs.
If you are a previous/existing client who would love to be added to my list for these, give me a shout!
And if you are not currently on my books but you would like a one-to-one approach to work on the things that matter to you and your puppy/dog, with the option to include group sessions with other dogs when the time is right, I would love to hear from you.