05/09/2026
Most people are far too quick to assume that when a dog runs over to us holding a toy, theyâre bringing it TO us. âOh, youâve brought me your toy!â *reaches for it*
And then we take it, and suddenly the dog who was happily trotting around with their toy is jumping all over us, barking, mouthing and struggling to cope.
That toy is actually helping them manage all of the excitement of seeing you, especially in breeds who have been bred to âholdâ (like gun-dogs). It gives them something to do with all those big feelings, rather than directing all of that energy into jumping up, barking or mouthing you.
So if your dog comes to greet you with a toy in their mouth, let them hold the dang toy.
You donât have to take it. You donât have to play. You can just say hello and let them wander around with it until theyâre ready to put it down.
You donât have to assume that every time they bring you a toy, itâs an invitation to take it, especially during a greeting.
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