04/22/2026
Every rider has had a round that slowly unraveled jump after jump. A missed distance turns into a rushed line. Before you know it, one mistake has quietly become three, not because you don’t know how to fix it, but because you never quite got back to where you were before it happened.
In those moments, the instinct is to focus on the mistake itself. To ride better and fix the next distance. But how you process after is often how you can move forward to improve next time.
Clinical psychologist Paul Haefner, Ph.D., who works extensively with equestrians, helps with riders’ ability to manage their internal state in real time. “If we want to do well, we have to be well,” he explains. That idea shifts the focus away from isolated mistakes and toward the system delivering the performance.
Riders are taught to “move on” after a mistake, but very few are actually taught how to do it. A mistake changes your mental state. Your thoughts speed up, body tightens, breathing shifts, and focus drifts backward instead of forward. At that point, you’re no longer riding the course in front of you, but reacting to what already happened.
Haefner describes performance in terms of regulation: the ability to stay behaviorally, emotionally, and mentally steady enough to respond to what’s happening in the moment. When that system becomes overloaded, even experienced riders can struggle to access what they already know how to do.
When things start to go wrong, many riders instinctively try to override it. They ride stronger, add more leg, or try to fix the next line. But effort layered on top of tension rarely creates clarity.
Without a way to reset, stress begins to stack. Each moment adds to the next. Nothing gets released.
Haefner sees this pattern frequently. If a rider doesn’t have the ability to calm their system, the pressure accumulates. “If you can’t calm your nervous system, then you’re always going to be stacking,” he says. That buildup is what turns a single mistake into a disrupted round.
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