05/29/2026
One of the biggest mistakes I see dog owners make is thinking calm dogs are born that way.
They’re not.
Calm dogs learn how to be calm.
And for many dogs, that learning starts with doing absolutely nothing.
No tricks.
No commands.
No constant talking.
Just observing the world.
One of my favourite exercises when out on a walk is finding a bench, sitting down, and allowing the dog to simply exist in the environment.
At first, many dogs struggle.
They’re scanning.
Looking for dogs.
Watching every person.
Trying to pull toward every distraction.
It tells us the dog hasn’t learned how to regulate themselves in the environment yet.
So instead of immediately moving on, or telling them to sit, lie down, or look at me, just simply stay there quietly and allow the dog the opportunity to work through it on their own.
When the dog softens, relaxes, checks back in, lies down, or simply chooses calm behaviour on their own, acknowledge it.
Over time, the dog starts learning that not everything in the environment requires a response.
And relaxing actually feels good.
That lesson alone can completely change a reactive dog’s life.
Many dogs are simply stuck in a cycle of over-arousal, fixation, and constant environmental scanning.
Teaching a dog how to slow down and regulate is one of the first steps toward changing that pattern.
This is a skill we practice regularly inside my training programs because calmness isn’t something dogs magically develop.
It’s something we teach.
Have you ever practiced sitting and doing absolutely nothing with your dog in public?