15/09/2026
Maggie's family gave her a goodbye that most people are too scared to even imagine is possible.
Her family and I had been talking for months before the day came. This wasn't in a panic or a last minute decision. They always knew that I was here as a sounding board for when they needed to talk something through.
And as Maggie's cancer progressed, it started to affect her quality of life. She was still enjoying all things food-related, time in the sun, and walks with the family, but they could see it starting to get harder. So Maggie's family chose to let her have all the best days she could without holding back, before the days got too hard for her to enjoy them. Before we reached a crisis.
It's normal for us to feel that a decision like this is too soon. That we might have more time. We ask ourselves, 'what if we had one more day, or one more week?'
But on the day our pets pass, what do we really want for them? To see them in pain and discomfort? Or do we want them to enjoy receiving our love and attention, cuddles and treats, and being able to drift off to sleep at home surrounded by their favourite people?
Maggie's family chose option 2. She passed at home, surrounded by everyone who loved her. She got bacon, donuts and a whole leg of lamb, so many kisses and cuddles, and she was the centre of attention (where she loved to be).
Afterwards her family honoured her their own way. Letters of love tied around her paw, a lock of hair to keep safe, and ink pawprints to remember those little feet. And she was laid to rest in the garden with fresh flowers.
I know that planning ahead can feel frightening. But talking about it early can take so much of the fear out of it. The ending doesn't have to be rushed or reactive. It can be gentle, unhurried and full of love at home, in the place you and your pet feel safest.
If you think this time might be coming for your pet, you don't have to figure it out alone. Reach out anytime for a gentle chat
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