27/02/2026
Be the bigger person, or justโฆ
The person.
Iโve met a lot of cranky horses, aggressive horses, horses that push and bite or constantly have pinned ears and a sour face.
In the human world if someone enters a space with an intimidating or abrasive energy our defences are up instantly, we feel it and we either shrink or reflect back the same short, sharp energy.
It can be easy to do the same with our horses, they pin their ears and we want to snap back at them or โcorrectโ them, we call them disrespectful or rude.
Or we simply shrink back.
But the problem is that no one is actually diffusing the situation here - in fact sometimes you might even be adding fuel to the fire.
Your horse doesnโt have a voice, their main form of communication is body language.
These symptoms are all signs of discomfort or frustration and reprimanding often does little to nothing to help this.
The horse may stop the behaviour temporarily to avoid punishment but the feelings remain, and in these moments they learn that communication is futile. You may pay the price for this later with bad behaviours that appear โout of nowhereโ.
The horse may escalate the behaviour in an effort to be heard, this often leads to greater consequences and then louder communication and so the cycle continues but is not resolved.
That doesnโt mean you donโt have any boundaries at all, and shrinking purely leaves the horse without support.
As the human, putting the horse into your world, you carry the onus to think logically and rectify the situation through reassurance, regulation, support, consistency and clear communication. Keep building these tools and skills always.
And Iโm here to assure you that working out what YOU can do to help the situation become more productive wonโt mean your horse โwinsโ or โgets one over on youโ, it will not reinforce bad behaviour for the future but what it will do is solidify your relationship and allow your horse to see the value in following your direction.
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