07/10/2026
It’s funny. The training world will give you all kinds of fancy, sophisticated, science-y reasons for your dog’s problem behavior.
Whether that be reactivity, resource guarding, human aggression, multi-dog-home aggression, hyper-territoriality, attacking guests, separation anxiety, or just blowing off thoroughly trained and well understood commands.
There’s always something super deep and exotic that’s the actual cause: Imagined trauma or abuse, negative early experiences, breed tendencies, genetic stability, a fancy training protocol that’s missing.
What’s funny is that we get these dogs with super serious versions of all of the above list and more—and yet once we share true leadership, aka create absolute hierarchical clarity, and ensure there’s zero confusion as to who’s running the show in a non-negotiable don’t F-Around fashion—the all too familiar laundry list of behavior issues, magically start to fade. Sometimes mind-bendingly fast… as in within a few minutes, and without any fancy tools or training.
And yet, this reality is almost never discussed in raw, transparent, non-dolled-up language.
Whether that’s because trainers don’t see it, or they do and feel it’s too raw and unsavory to be properly marketable, is hard to say. Probably lots of both.
All I can say is that when I stand back and watch the patterns of dogs who come to us (and others) with serious issues, and I observe the relationship dynamics between dog and owner, I see precisely the same thing… over and over. I see owners who are soft, weak, permissive, tentative, hesitant, emotionally unbalanced, and using dogs-as-replacements for other aspects of life they’re missing… and I see the dogs who see all of the above just as clearly as I do, and who respond accordingly.
What I almost never see are strong, firm, zero-bullsh*t-taking, emotionally balanced, common sense-connected, non-brainwashed, dog-is-a-dog (but also deeply loved), FAFO owners… struggling.
Are there exceptions? Of course. There’s always exceptions. But when you see this pattern in approx 99.9999% of dogs with behavior issues, and how quickly it can be undone, you can’t unsee it. Not if you’re willing to be honest and non-PC.
Do you need training skills and the proper tools? I’d highly recommend them. But without the mindset and attitude which properly fuel them, the struggle will mysteriously continue. Not to mention, when owners have the proper FAFO mindset and attitude to start off, there’s far less tools and training work required… sometimes none.