20/07/2026
š¾ "My Border Collie Doesn't Like Other Dogs ..."
One of the biggest misconceptions about Border Collies is that they should naturally enjoy meeting every dog they encounter.
The reality is far more complex.
While every dog is an individual, it is important to remember what Border Collies were selectively bred to do over many generations.
Their job was not to socialise with unfamiliar dogs.
Their job was to work cooperatively with a human, think independently, control livestock and often spend long hours alongside a small group of familiar working dogs. Interactions with unfamiliar dogs were generally brief, unnecessary or actively avoided.
As a result, many Border Collies have not been genetically selected to find repeated encounters with unknown dogs enjoyable.
This doesn't mean Border Collies are unfriendly.
It means many are naturally selective about their social relationships.
š§ Behavioural science tells us that social tolerance exists on a spectrum.
Some Border Collies genuinely enjoy interacting with unfamiliar dogs.
Some prefer only a few trusted canine friends.
Others are simply neutral and would rather ignore other dogs altogether.
None of these personalities are inherently wrong.
Unfortunately, modern pet life often asks them to do something very different from what they were originally bred for.
We take them to busy parks.
We walk them through suburban streets.
We expect them to pass dozens of unfamiliar dogs every week.
Many of these encounters occur while both dogs are restrained on lead, removing one of the most important behavioural options available to dogs...
Choice.
Dogs naturally use distance to regulate social interactions. If they feel uncertain, they will often choose to increase the distance between themselves and another dog.
A lead can prevent this completely.
When a dog loses the ability to move away, they may experience increased stress, frustration or conflict.
This is one reason why some dogs appear perfectly relaxed off lead with appropriate dogs, yet bark, lunge or react while on lead.
It is not always aggression.
Sometimes it is simply a dog saying,
"I don't feel comfortable, and I have no other option."
Another important consideration is canine social skills.
Not every dog has good manners.
Many dogs rush directly into another dog's face, stare, stand over them, ignore calming signals or invade personal space.
To us, these interactions may seem friendly.
To another dog, they can be socially inappropriate or even threatening.
Repeated exposure to unpleasant encounters can gradually change a dog's emotional response through a process called sensitisation.
Instead of becoming more comfortable around unfamiliar dogs, they become increasingly vigilant because past experiences have taught them that other dogs predict discomfort.
This is why I would encourage owners to stop measuring success by the number of dogs their Border Collie meets.
Instead, ask yourself these questions:
š¾ Is my dog relaxed?
š¾ Does my dog have the choice to create distance?
š¾ Am I advocating for my dog's comfort?
š¾ Are the interactions positive and appropriate?
For many Border Collies, the happiest walk is not one filled with greetings.
It is one where they can explore, sniff, learn, engage with their owner and pass other dogs calmly without feeling pressured to interact.
Socialisation does not mean teaching your puppy to love every dog they meet.
True socialisation is helping them feel safe, confident and emotionally stable in the presence of other dogs, whether they choose to interact or not.
Every Border Collie is an individual.
Some will become canine social butterflies.
Others will be perfectly content with a small circle of trusted dog friends.
Both are completely normal.
Donna Williams,
Emerald Park Border Collies.