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05/14/2026

"We must be free to experiment or else sooner or later we get stuck in the prison of our vanity and self-aggrandizement. Horses react to mental rigidity and dogmatism just like they do to physical stiffness in the rider..."
- Dr. Gerd Heuschmann

05/14/2026

Walk into any barn and within a few lessons you can feel the difference between an instructor who is just delivering content and one who is genuinely teaching. The horses go better and the students improve faster. The barn has an energy that is hard to name but impossible to miss. That difference does not come from a better arena or a fancier horse or a longer credential list. It comes from a set of habits and a way of thinking that the best instructors have developed often without ever being able to fully articulate what it is. Here is what separates an average instructor from a good one...

1. They teach the rider in front of them and not the rider they planned for
The best instructors walk to the arena with a plan and hold it loosely. They read the horse and rider within the first five minutes and adjust everything accordingly. The student who arrives tense and distracted after a hard week does not need the collected canter work you had planned. They need something that rebuilds their confidence and settles their nervous system first. The instructor who teaches their plan regardless of what the horse and rider are telling them is not teaching. They are just delivering content.

2. They know the difference between a skill problem and a confidence problem
A student who cannot execute a skill and a student who can execute the skill but does not trust themselves to do it require completely different responses. The first needs more progressive, technical work. The second needs space, success experiences, and an instructor who steps back instead of stepping in. Confusing these two problems and applying the wrong solution is one of the most common reasons students plateau and most instructors never stop to identify which problem they are actually dealing with.

3. They are genuinely curious about why
When something goes wrong in a lesson the average instructor corrects what they see. The best instructor asks why it happened. Why is that horse falling out through the shoulder on every right circle? Why does this rider always brace at the canter transition and not the trot? Why has this skill not stuck after six weeks of working on it? The habit of looking for the root cause rather than just addressing the symptom is what produces students who genuinely improve rather than students who temporarily fix one thing while the underlying problem keeps showing up somewhere else.

4. They make their students feel capable and not just corrected
There is an art to correction that the best instructors have developed and most never think about deliberately. It is not about being soft or avoiding hard feedback. It is about framing correction in a way that leaves the student feeling like improvement is possible and within their reach rather than feeling like they are fundamentally doing everything wrong. A student who leaves every lesson feeling capable and motivated comes back and tries harder next week. A student who leaves feeling criticized and overwhelmed quietly starts finding reasons not to rebook.

5. They never stop being students themselves
The instructors whose teaching stays sharp over a long career are the ones who never decided they already knew enough. They take lessons, audit clinics, read, and ask questions of people who know things they do not. They stay genuinely curious about horses and riding and the science of how people learn.

6. They protect their program like a professional
Clear policies. Consistent standards. Rates that reflect their actual value. Boundaries that hold regardless of who is pushing on them. The best instructors run their programs with the confidence of someone who knows what they offer is worth paying for and worth protecting. That professionalism is not separate from their teaching quality but it is part of it. Students trust an instructor who runs a tight professional program in a way they simply cannot trust one who bends every rule and apologizes for every rate.

7. They take the long view on every student
The best instructors are not optimizing for a good lesson this week. They are optimizing for a good rider in two years. That means sometimes slowing down when a student wants to go faster. It means rebuilding a foundation that was rushed the first time. It means making a decision that is right for the rider's long term development even when it is not what the rider or their parent wants to hear right now. Students who are taught by instructors who think this way become riders who last. And riders who last are the foundation of every great lesson program.

The gap between a good instructor and a great one is not usually found in the arena. It is found in how they think about teaching and about their students, about their program, and about what they are actually trying to build. The technical skills matter too but the mindset is what makes them stick.

What is the one thing that has made the biggest difference in your teaching over the years?

05/14/2026

Opening, like a page. Not pulling back!

05/14/2026

COMMON MISTAKE! Not so much in hand, but when people ride Renvers, they SO OFTEN turn it into just counter bend with both ends out.
That is A exercise, but it’s not Renvers, and doesn’t have the same magic sprinkles as Renvers
Really focus on keeping the chest of the horse pointed on your circle, and not away from it. And keep it S L O W……  the hindquarters must perform a much larger circle than the shoulders so you have to keep the shoulders super slow. And this is where the magic really lives because slowing down the front legs and increasing the swing time of the hind legs, is what creates the diagonalization effect!!
Horses will diagonalize in giravolta as well, but it does not have the same collection effect because they can just fall through the outside shoulder to quickly and easily catch their balance. It’s when you change the bend into renvers that it really has a true collection effect! 

05/11/2026

As riding instructors we spend a lot of time managing the gap between what new students expect riding to be and what it actually is. Most of that gap could be narrowed significantly with one honest conversation before the first lesson ever happens. So here is everything I wish every new student and every new riding family walked in already knowing...

1. Riding is harder than it looks
This is the one that surprises people most. Watching a good rider looks effortless but it is not effortless. It is years of muscle memory, feel, balance, and body awareness built through consistent work over a long time. Your first lessons will feel awkward and uncoordinated and that is completely normal. Every rider you have ever admired felt exactly the way you feel right now when they were starting out.

2. The horse is not a bicycle
It is a living animal with its own personality, its own opinions, and its own good days and bad days. It does not always do what you ask the first time and that is not always your fault but it is always your responsibility to figure out the communication. Learning to work with a horse rather than on top of one is one of the most valuable things riding teaches and it starts from the very first lesson.

3. Progress is not linear
Some weeks you will feel like you have jumped forward three levels. Other weeks you will feel like you have forgotten everything you learned last month. Both are completely normal parts of learning to ride. The students who improve consistently are not the ones who never have bad lessons but they are the ones who show up anyway and keep working through the frustrating ones.

4. One lesson a week is a start but not a program
A single lesson per week gives you exposure to riding. Two lessons per week builds skill significantly faster. The riders who progress quickest are the ones who ride consistently and frequently enough that their muscles and nervous system have time to develop real memory around what correct feels like. If budget allows for more than one lesson per week it is worth it.

5. Your position will feel wrong before it feels right
Correct position in the saddle feels deeply unnatural to most people at first. Heels down feels like you are pushing your foot through the floor. Sitting tall feels like you are leaning back. An independent hand feels like you are doing nothing. Trust the process and trust your instructor. The things that feel strange now become automatic eventually but only if you commit to doing them correctly rather than defaulting back to what feels comfortable.

6. The time around the lesson matters as much as the lesson itself
Grooming your horse before you ride. Learning to tack up correctly. Understanding how to read your horse's body language in the cross ties. This is not the boring part before the real lesson begins. This is horsemanship and it makes you a better rider than an hour in the saddle alone ever will.

7. Bad rides happen to every rider at every level
Including the ones you look up to most. A bad lesson does not mean you are not cut out for this, it just means you are learning something hard and doing it on the back of a living animal that is also having a day. Come back next week and it will be different.
Your instructor is on your side.

8. Every correction we give is in service of your progress and your safety
We are not pointing out what is wrong to make you feel bad but we are pointing out what needs to change so you can get where you want to go faster and more safely. The students who improve fastest are the ones who hear a correction as information rather than criticism and apply it without taking it personally.

9. Riding changes you in ways you will not expect
The patience it builds, the confidence that comes from communicating with an animal ten times your size and being understood. The resilience that develops from falling short of a goal and coming back for it anyway. The community you find at the barn. None of that shows up in the first lesson or even the tenth but it will show up at one point. For most riders it becomes one of the most significant things in their life and not just what they do on Tuesday afternoons but part of who they are.

If you are a riding instructor share this with every new family who walks through your gate. If you are a new student or a parent of one - welcome. You picked something genuinely worth doing!

What do you wish someone had told you before your very first riding lesson?

05/11/2026

05/10/2026

Monday's training.

Just a few reminders for you to think about.

1. Ride with a positive mindset.

2. Develop your feel through your seat.

3. Feel your horse's energy in your hands rather than keep nagging to keep them on the bit.

4. Keep your elbows in and soft and follow your horse's movement in walk and canter.

5. In trot keep elbows in, soft and steady.

6. Think about keeping the bit centered in your horse's mouth by having even hands.

7. Feel the energy in the outside hind leg, slide your inside seat bone forward for a canter transition.

8. Try and use the whole arena. All arenas have a spooky corner or end which makes it easy to avoid using that part. Be confident and brave.

9. Feel you have a trot waiting to happen in your walk.
Feel you have a canter waiting to happen in your trot work.

10. Always think of controlling your breathing.

11. Identify your strengths and weaknesses. Don't just keep working on the things you can do well. Practice the exercises you find difficult as well.

12. Above all take your time and enjoy the journey with your horse.

13. Keep variety in your horse's training. Schooling, poles, ground work and hacking.

Hopefully there is something there for everyone.

05/08/2026

There was a time when I boarded my horse and got heated, Jamie Sindell writes. I’m talking full-blown righteous fury over what I saw as egregious examples of poor care. Mistakes that made me seethe with rage. But now? I own my own farm. I’ve spent almost three years caring for my own horses. And I can say, with absolute certainty, that most of the time when I threw an inner-temper tantrum, I needed to relax.

Caring for horses is hard work. Caring for horses is not a perfect science. If I could go back in time, I’d tell Past Me to chill. Because now I understand things like…

Horses drink water.
I would show up to the barn, see an empty bucket, and my inner alarm bell screamed: NEGLECT. What I know now is it’s not like horses say, “Hey, I’m extra thirsty today, lady. I’m going to drain my bucket the minute you turn your back.” Odds are your horse went on a little water bender, and the staff just hasn’t been back around to top it off. He’s not dying of dehydration. He just drank a lot.

Horses hurt themselves.
I used to find a scratch or bump and immediately stew over it: Why didn’t anyone tell me about this? Maybe it’s because no one saw it? Your horse could’ve done it in the privacy of his own stall, or while playing in turnout, when it didn’t look like much. Just because you see it now doesn’t mean it was obvious earlier. So maybe don’t go full psycho until you get the scoop.

Sometimes it’s best to skip turnout.
Back then, I was always complaining that my horse didn’t get enough turnout. If he was especially spicy, I’d blame it on that. Now? I’ve seen my ponies wipe out on the flattest, driest paddocks because they were acting like drunk frat boys. Add mud, ice, or sketchy weather, and the risk goes way up. Sometimes, a shorter turnout or zero turnout means your horse stays in one piece. So, ask yourself: do you want a fresh horse… or a broken one?

Horses don’t require a hay buffet.
If your horse maintains a healthy weight, most likely he’s getting enough food. I used to sneak my horse extra flakes to ensure he was “living his best life.” In hindsight, that was inconsiderate and unnecessary. Hay is expensive, and horses love to p*e all over the extra. Also, my horse didn’t need to be a porker to be happy–he needed not to founder.

Horses p**p. A lot.
I remember walking into a stall and thinking: Why is this so gross today? But some days, horses p**p more than others. And if they were kept in due to weather, it’s going to look (and smell) nastier. A bad stall day here or there doesn’t automatically equal poor care.

📎 Continue reading this article at https://www.theplaidhorse.com/2025/05/15/confessions-of-a-reformed-boarder-karen/
📸 Photo © Jamie Sindell