09/05/2026
Conflict is not the opposite of compassion. Sometimes, compassion is what allows us to move through conflict without turning it into contention.
Reality: Conflict is part of life. Learning to meet it with honesty, healthy boundaries, and curiosity is a skill.
Culture: Conflict is uncomfortableâand discomfort is increasingly treated as proof that something, or someone, should be cut off.
The first photo is a throwback from three or four years agoâtime is a blurâto a very special PRE stallion I was lucky enough to spend a summer with. He was recovering from kissing spine surgery, and his wonderful owner, who has since become a dear friend, wanted to give him a second chance at a riding career.
This horse moved through the world with plenty of conflict of his own. He feared very little, and he knew his size and strength could bulldoze through most perceived threats. Working with him required a delicate balance: setting clear, healthy boundaries while helping him discover better ways to communicate.
He was an absolute god of a horse, and I was honored to spend that time with him.
Fast-forward to today: he is owned and deeply loved by a professional who specializes in PRE stallions. He is dancing with joyâthe picture of physical strength, expression, and grace.
But what if his owner had âcanceledâ him? What if his physical weakness and behavioral challenges had been too uncomfortable to work through? What if his conflict had been met with opposition or avoidance instead of compassion, boundaries, and time?
Life is a struggle for all of us. None of us gets it right all the time.
One thing Iâve learned at 35 is that discomfort alone is not always a reason to discard a relationship. Sometimes, real strength means looking conflict in the eye and approaching it with compassion and discernment.
That doesnât mean tolerating harm, abandoning boundaries, or staying where there is no accountability. It means recognizing that both human and horse relationships can become stronger when we are willing to navigate conflict honestly, respectfully, and compassionately.
Iâm deeply grateful for the peopleâand horsesâin my life who have been willing to go there with me. â¤ď¸