05/30/2026
If your dog comes to you for comfort, I’m here to tell you it’s okay to comfort them.
You’re not going to reinforce their fear or coddle them or make them soft. I don’t know where this idea came from, but it needs to go away.
The fact that your dog sees you as a source of comfort is a GOOD thing. It demonstrates the bond you’ve created with them. When you respond to their request for comfort, it shows them that you’re listening, which only further deepens your bond.
Is it still important for your dog to learn the skills to cope with stressful things in life? Sure. But in the meantime, we don’t need to leave them hanging.
Candi got scared of the wind knocking over a patio chair in front of her. Her response is pretty reasonable, I think. And so when she pressed her body against mine and pawed at me to pet her, I gladly did.
I’m honored that she sees me as a comfort and that she chose to communicate her need so clearly.