05/23/2026
I keep seeing these āmale vs femaleā breeder posts going around lately, and honestly some of them make me laugh a bit. People try so hard to promote males that they end up making females sound like these dominant, territorial little monstersā¦ and that just isnāt reality.
You really donāt have to put one gender down to talk about the other.
Iāve raised both for years, lived with both, and the truth is pretty simple: there are amazing males and amazing females. There are also stubborn males and stubborn females. It comes down to genetics, temperament, confidence, socialization, and the individual dog.
People love to lean on stereotypes.
Youāll hear āfemales are sweeter, calmer, cleaner, easier,ā and then on the other side āmales are more affectionate, easier to train, more loving, more fun.ā And both sides tend to exaggerate things that just arenāt that black and white.
In my experience, males do tend to be more openly affectionate and attention-seeking. A lot of them are goofy, clingy, playful, and very people-focused. Theyāll follow you everywhere, sit on you, and act like your shadow. Thatās usually what wins people over once they actually live with one.
Females can be just as incredible. Some of the smartest, most intuitive, most loyal dogs Iāve ever had have been females. A lot of girls are more observant and confident ā bonded deeply to their people, just in a different way. Some are sweet and easygoing, some are playful, and some absolutely run the house š
And honestly, you can have 50 people in the comments swear by their experience with males or females, and thatās fine ā but itās still just their experience. It doesnāt define the entire gender, and it definitely doesnāt guarantee thatās the puppy youāre going to get. You can hear the same story 20 times and still end up with a completely different personality in your own home. Thatās why I donāt put much weight into āmale vs femaleā debates online ā every dog is still an individual.
At the end of the day, I donāt even think in terms of ābetter.ā I think in terms of fit. The right puppy is the one whose temperament matches your home, not the one whose gender you pre-decided before you ever met them.
