09/18/2026
I specifically buy from, ride with, even pay for lessons with, other equine professionals I trust.
I have a LONG list of nasty personalities I won’t recommend my clients to, but I make sure to invest in those whom I trust and want to see succeed. I focus my energy on those I’d recommend not those that are a questionable humans or who have a sh*tty attitude and enjoy gossip.
There’s a reason for that. It’s widely accepted that you become like the 5ish people with whom you spend most of your time.
You can be around those cheering for and investing in others, who are good and safe and ethical to their horses, or you can be part of the nasty drama. 🎭
Surround yourself and your horses with those who genuinely make you want to be a better person. The rest will sort itself out ❤️
Are We Cheering?
A rare occurrence happened last weekend; I was able to take my daughters to a horse obstacle competition. With my job, weekends are usually spent on the road at clinics, etc., so they don't get to go many places to compete. My girls took their trusted partners, and I took my 3-year-old, Boon, so he could get some exposure; might as well, we were going.
Both of my girls had really good runs, earning them good scores, better scores than Dad. I was so happy that they put into practice the things we work on. Boon was able to work through some really good things, and he made great progress. In short, I was there for that very purpose: to have some fun as I could cheer for my girls.
Here is where it was interesting, and it is something I have thought about since then. Do we cheer for everyone, or just for what we want based on our own selfishness?
Multiple people made comments about how my daughters beat their dad. I even entered them in the same class as me, the advanced, so that we all could be challenged and ride through all of the obstacles. One even asked how the ride home would go now that they beat me. To that, I answered, "No one cheers for my girls louder than I do!"
So my question is, do we cheer for others in general, specifically those close to us? Or do we really hope that they do well, just not as well as us?
In this crazy ride called life, I believe we should want the best for everyone, whether there is something in it for me or not.