10/02/2026
What does it look like when we teach a dog how to regulate themselves?
Regulate is a fancy term, and when we're talking about emotions, behavior and the nervous system, it means that what goes up can also come down. Many of our dogs get stuck in hyper, reactive, and over-the-top behavior patterns because they haven't had consistent practice in coming back down from those states.
Nigel has come a long way in learning how to regulate himself and make different choices when faced with triggers he's unsure of or overexcited by. Here's how a recent walk looked ...
Nigel was startled and unsure about a running water fountain that we were passing on our neighborhood walk. He stopped in his tracks and stared at it, unsure what to do. His attention was riveted on the fountain, yet he did not approach it. Previously he would have gone behind me or even on the other side to give that fountain a huge amount of space.
He stared; I waited. I talked to him softly. He walked to the potted flowers alongside the fountain, stuck his nose in and proceeded to sniff. But he wasn't truly interested in that flower ... I could tell because his eye and ear were to the side paying attention to that fountain.
He was processing and gathering information about that fountain without confronting it head on. AND he was also in the process regulating his own responses. Sniffing something else, and having time and space to process a concern both are great ways of bringing down emotions and arousal.
It was fascinating to watch how he chose to deal with the situation. I let him have as much time as he needed and gently let him know he was doing a great job.
Before he was finished, a car passed by (a big trigger for him), and he immediately startled a bit and turned to see the car. I don't think either one of us had noticed it approaching since we were so focused on the fountain. I was ready to jump in to help support him here, but ...
He made another brilliant choice on his own and moved to a nearby patch of grass with another potted flower to sniff for a moment, did a nice little shake off (shaking his body as if he was wet) to relieve the building tension, and then was ready for a treat and to continue the walk.
It was fascinating to watch him navigate this tough situation with very minimal help from me. I was also so proud, because several months ago, he would have reacted very strongly to both of those triggers. He's learning how to make choices with his behavior and the skills I've practiced with him.
So, while regulate is a fancy term, you can see that the process doesn't need to look fancy. To anyone walking past, it would have appeared my dog was sniffing a flower or the grass. But once we learn what to watch for, and how to help our dogs deal with things that they're unsure of or overly excited about (squirrels!), we can see these nuances of behavior, and it's so cool to see our dog's learning how to make those decisions on their own.
If your dog gets worried, reactive, or overly excited about things happening around them, and you'd like to teach them how to make different choices about their behavior, please reach out. You can find a link in my bio. I really love helping people and dogs with this.