10/01/2026
This is what we mean when we talk about building a strong nervous system.
Mister Beans attended his first hockey game tonight.
He had never experienced anything remotely like this before. Dozens of unfamiliar people, music, buzzers, yelling, movement everywhere, and a completely unfamiliar building with unfamiliar smells.
And I don’t expect a kitten to walk into that environment and think, Excellent. Totally normal.
He was uncertain.
That’s not the same thing as being afraid.
A confident kitten still notices when something is new. He may become more alert. He may want to stay close to his person while he takes everything in. He may need time to observe before deciding something is safe.
What matters is what happens after the uncertainty.
Can he observe without escalating into panic?
Can he take information in?
Can he recover from a startling sound?
Can he remain curious?
Can he look to his person for security and then go back to investigating the world?
That is the foundation we’re trying to build.
The goal of socialization isn’t to somehow expose a kitten to every possible thing he might encounter during his lifetime. That’s impossible.
The goal is to give him enough safe, varied experiences while his brain is developing that new doesn’t automatically mean dangerous.
Because if you want a cat who is truly part of your life…traveling with you, going places with you and experiencing the world alongside you…you don’t need a kitten who has already experienced your exact life.
You need one who has learned how to experience something new, taking established confidence and then teaching them what to do with it.
Xo, Alicia + Darren