09/04/2026
"You shouldn't have a dog if...."
These conversations bother me. They often become classist, ableist, etc, and they're rarely helpful to dogs. Of course there are things every dog owner should know beforehand such as budgeting and time allotment, but in my entire career I have rarely seen a home that was perfect for a dog. I think that's a good thing, and here's why.
Let me tell you a little about the pet situation where I live. Fair warning, it is pretty alarming.
One of the most common ways to acquire a pet in my community is to just stumble upon one. Almost hitting them with your car, having them show up on your property, or generally just finding one somewhere. I can't tell you how many of my client dogs adopted their owners without the humans' consent! My own first dog was a puppy who followed me home.
If you call Animal Welfare about a stray dog, they will usually ask you two questions: Is it aggressive? Is it seriously hurt or sick? If not, they literally do not have time. It's not that they don't want to help that dog, it's just that they are so busy and so understaffed that they can't come for every call. They'll ask if you can take the dog home with you, or at least get them scanned for a chip. If you can't, they will probably advise you to let the dog go so that they can (hopefully) make their way back home. Even if you can transport the dog to the shelter, they're often stuffed to the gills already.
Just recently, our local SPCA assisted a woman on a rural property with over 100 dogs, many of them former strays. This was a situation where genuine human kindness got out of hand. She knew every dog by name, and adored them all, but couldn't afford spay and neuter for everybody. The team altered the dogs, took many in, and left some in the loving home they had always known.
I won't even try to cover our puppy mill/pet store problem. You would be astonished.
All across our state, several wonderful programs take adoptable dogs out of our shelters and transport them to places with more adopters and fewer dogs.
SO! When people say things like "You shouldn't have a dog if you work 8 hours a day," my brain does a spit take. I cannot imagine how many dogs would lose their lives if no one adopted them because an otherwise wonderful adopter.... had a job? I PRAY for the day that I can judge someone for crating their dog for an extended period of time, or for not having a yard, or for not being able to afford training or large, unexpected vet bills. But today is not that day. Not here.
*PLEASE NOTE* I am not promoting lower standards for dog stewardship. There is no such thing as perfect, but we owe our dogs progress. My whole job is to help humans make progress in order to improve their dogs' welfare. I sincerely long to go out of business due to lack of demand.
But there are faaaaaar more dogs here than "only the best" homes, and poverty is rampant. Always keep that in mind before you say "You shouldn't have a dog if...."
Besides, you'd be surprised at how perfect an imperfect home can be when real love is involved. I've seen so many dogs flourish in a less-than-we-would-have-it environment JUST because they are loved by someone whom they can love in return.
Is your dog safe? Healthy? Happy? Loved? Fed & watered? Sheltered? Fulfilled? If yes, your dog is better off than most by leaps and bounds. There is no shame in being less than perfect. It can always get better though, so never stop learning, and get professional help with behavior if you can. đ
Please donate, volunteer, foster, adopt, and for heaven's sake....
SPAY AND NEUTER!
(Ask your vet about ovary-sparing spay/vasectomy!)