13/12/2022
Responsibilities
Now this is an odd title for a dog trainer but it is so needed for so many reasons. Its about having a dog and meeting their needs.
Now I have long term depression, migraines, arthritis, anxiety, lack self worth etc, and I find some days are just way over my head. I don't want to get out of bed, see people, can't see due to migraines or lift my head off the bed. I want to shut myself away, keep the world away from me. It is a constant battle to do the easiest of tasks such as making a drink, eating, washing, getting out of bed you name it I can struggle with it.
I have a family of 6 dogs so I have to look after them, it is not their fault I am not coping, not well etc. They know I am not right I can see that in their behaviours which makes me sad and feel even worse because this is having an impact on them too.
Now I might not be in a good place, but I have to and must meet their needs. They have to have as normal a time as possible. I have to get up at a reasonable time and take them out to the toilet, it is after all a basic need. They have to be fed and I keep to a routine that they are used to, it might not be what I want to do but it is meeting their basic needs. There is no excuse for me not to do this, after all I took them on and made a commitment to look after them. They have to go out for walks, now mine love to sniff so that makes it easier for me as I let them do what they should be doing. We sometimes don't even walk that far, after all it is their walk not mine, they guide me to what they want to do. Take today Socrates wanted to sit and watch the birds and air scent so we did, even though it was cold I stood with him and watched too. the ground was not frozen today so all of mine took to sniffing the grass, leaves, branches, air they loved it.
Now my dogs are pets not working dogs so they do not have the added pressure of supporting me officially although they do anyway. When you have a dog that supports your needs whether you have sight, hearing, any health related issues, they deserve consistency and support back. They have added stress levels in their designated jobs. If these needs are not met this can affect your relationships and their abilities to do their jobs. They have ways of showing you they are not coping such as switching off, changes in behaviour, digestive disorders, changes in sleep, reactivity, looking at ways to cope, sniffing, chewing, avoidance of working, when working not being involved and distant.
So if your dog whether a pet or working dog has changes whether subtle or extreme, look at what affect your health and behaviour is having on them. There are always 2 sides to every story and we need to look at and investigate and not pass the blame onto one party. So even if you are in a bad place make sure that your dogs basic needs are met for their wellbeing.