01/10/2026
A bit of a long post.
This applies to you and your dog. Dogs learn patterns through repetition. They get cues from us and can learn things for themselves, so be careful what you send out, yes they are learning when you are not with them and you don’t know what they are actually learning. Often what I find is, a lot of the problems in your dog stem from the human (not all), why because we address everything with the same logical brain as a human, that’s very understandable, I get it because we are human, we are programmed like that and practiced it for all our years on this planet. Animals are different, especially dogs they don’t, they just seek simplicity, survival, reproduction and comfort, but not comfort how you see it, comfort to them means, happy, relaxed, not stressed, not anxious, not confused, being able to cope even when something happens, warmth, safety, basically survival and see things in a basic way to humans, this leads to what I call lost in translation. Once a dog learns something and it works they won’t actively seek another option that might be better, until that option or response doesn’t work. The more your dog practices something the better they get at it and it becomes a conditioned response, they can only learn something when they do it, because dogs live in the moment. When we try to use our human rationalisation to see how a dog sees something it often leads to what I call lost in translation and confusion sets in causing many issues and the more we try to fix it through human rationality the worse it often gets or at best it doesn’t get any worse. This is where you as the human have to change and break the cycle, if you don’t change then don’t expect the dog to change, then and only then will growth begin and the new path to a better life with your dog who can learn, become balanced and be able to cope in life. You will have to make some sacrifices that might go against what you think but it’s not forever only while you start to help the dog become the best version of themselves and the life they deserve. I’m not bothered if dogs are in beds, on couches etc I’m more concerned about can they cope, are they happy and content being sat there stroked and just as happy and content without it, are they happy and content being in the same house but also just as happy and content being left etc, this basic coping mechanism sets you and the dog up to cope in the real works and deal with other issues, it’s a basic fundamental, once you can achieve this you can sit their stroking a dog all day, loving them, on your bed because a balanced dog can cope and not be needy, which often leads to reactivity in our outside the house, running around the house stressed when you leave, barking at people going past or at the door, if your dog can’t do it in the house don’t expect it to do it out in the real world. Seriously look at your dog and think do I really want my dog living like that, stressed, anxious and not being able to cope because I know I wouldn’t and I’m human and I can rationalise things. I get people say to me but I love them or I’ll do anything for them, well if that were true, then teach them how to cope with you and without you, which you will find leads to helping in all sorts of other situations or behaviours. Now it’s not the be all and end all it’s the foundation going forward, but often getting just this solves an awful lot of problems. Will a dog ever react again yes of course they will, it’s a dog, but you will see the dog recover more quickly from an incident or situation and not stay in a state of hyper stimulation or stress. When you first start fixing behaviours in dogs YOU WILL have to make some sacrifices to begin with and take small steps for you both to grow and trust the process, but then end goal is to have a dog that you can stroke, love, lead, leave on its own, go out have a coffee and the dog is happy content, not worry about walking past people, dogs, people coming to your house and balanced in the brain. It’s the little changes that you repeat often that make the big things happen, there is no magic wand or fairy dust.
If you aren’t prepared to change then don’t expect your dog to change and I nor anyone else can do anything. Some journeys are easier than others. You need to treat a dog like a dog first a foremost and understand how they learn, before putting anthropomorphic ways on them. If you stroke your dog loads have it in the bed etc and have no coping problems or behaviour issues then great, crack on, I stroke my dogs, share affection, they come sit with me, they greet me but they can also cope with or without me or any of the other dogs in my pack and the real world. You can’t leave a pup or dog all the freedom and hope they make the right decision in our world, they won’t, to them every response they do is the right on in the moment and have no clue what you want from them or how to behave, they will just revert to instinctual behaviours and think it’s right. Your job is to guide and mould to help them achieve that, not a dog that can’t cope, is needy, anxious, stressed, lost and confused. Don’t leave it up to hope or guess work. The relationship between you and your dog is crucial & vital and the most important thing you can teach, get this and everything will fall into place easier and less issues. Get this and your bond will be stronger but I think people think that their dogs won’t love them if they do, wrong they will. This something I think we have lost over many years as it’s not just in dogs but society, we are creating our next generations not to be able to cope in life if they don’t experience micro stresses and learn hope to cope. You can’t half heartedly do it you must commit and be disciplined to see it through. You can’t sit down with a dog and explain things you have to show it.
I could write more and probably missed a couple of things out but the post is long enough.
Mr Myagi said karate do yes it karate do no, karate do guess so, squash like grape.
Learn principles not exercises.
If all else fails listen to what the trainer said to do in the beginning.