31/05/2026
Things were not magical for me today!
My studying did not go well today. I'm finding the way my current module is presented doesn't match my learning style, so I abandoned studying today in a cloud of frustration, overwhelm and a bit of self-pity (if I'm being entirely honest!).
I didn't pay enough attention to how I was feeling before going to spend time with my horses, and of course when things didn't quite go to plan, it exacerbated the feelings that were hanging around from my failed study session.
Luckily, I know that although my feelings are valid, feelings aren't fact. So although I was feeling down on myself for having a rubbish training session with the boys, I know that this doesn't define me as a horseperson or a human. I know that it doesn't make me incompetent, and one bad day doesn't define my abilities.
Because of this, my confidence remains strong, my self-esteem stays good and my ability to grow strengthens.
Because I validate my feelings, they don't escalate, fester, or come back to bite me later on.
This evening, I've made it a priority to do things that boost my mood and help me unwind from the stress from today so that I sleep well and can try again tomorrow.
I think a lot of people think that confidence, self-belief and success means never doubting yourself, never making mistakes, and being totally in control of your thoughts.
This couldn't be further from the truth! We're all human and doubt ourselves all the time, but confidence is knowing that this moment will pass and separating thoughts from feelings so difficult moments remain moments.
Today was not a good day for me. But do I feel okay about it? Absolutely.
As a mental health nurse, these are the kinds of skills I bring to your lessons to help you grow in confidence and self-esteem, as well as your practical skills with your horse.
If you're looking for a trainer that will support you as well as your horse, my DMs are open.
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