Tamryn Fudge • The Shamanic Dog Trainer

08/15/2026

My mom didn’t like the way I looked.

She put me on diets.

She asked me to wear make-up.

Different clothes.

I was shown how to count my calories and weigh myself several times a day.

It was a constant battle to try to be something I am not and more like the way she wanted me to be.

I had deep shame for who I was.

It was so close to me, I didn’t notice it was there.

I just knew I wasn’t right, and I was trying everything I could to become something that would work.



I wonder if this is how a dog might feel when the person in their life is constantly trying to change something fundamental about them.

Like my mom asking me to change the shape and appearance of my body – something that I really had absolutely no control of, in the end – what happens when a dog is asked to become something other than exactly who they are?

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It is natural, we are told, to shape a dog into something that’s more appealing to the public eye. Or ear.


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Think of a dog who’s barking is irritating to their family.

A dog that hates going in the bath and can’t get accustomed to it.

A dog who’s excitement for every house guest leads to puddles on the carpeted floor.

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These are “behaviours”, and we are told how to cut them in the bud. That we need to train them out of our dogs.

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I’ve noticed this habit of ours, of tinkering and demanding, cajoling and pushing, is dangerously close to shaming and rejecting.


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Even though it is sanctioned by almost every pet professional out there, and it has been normalized to the point of being expected, it is a harm we perpetrate on our dogs when we refuse to accept every part of them.

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This immediately becomes a discussion with logic such as “well, you can’t just let a dog do whatever they want” and “how else are they going to learn”, and “it will be chaos if we let them be how they are”.

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I used to wonder the same thing.

When I began learning shamanism, and I was informed that unconditional love is a guiding principle of nature, I was enthusiastic. I understood the idea at the theory level, but had very little experience of it in practice, in my real life.

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Studying the shamanic teachings, I inched closer and closer towards feeling and sensing and inhabiting unconditional love they spoke about. It was an unusual coat I was trying on, and it didn’t match any of the guidelines I was taught in my family and my culture.

I was a product of judgement and shame. I was soaked in expectations and conditions.

I had also passed this, unwittingly, on to the relationship with my dog.

She was a blue heeler, and she was a bully to other dogs.

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I spent an inordinate amount of energy trying to make her change. I wanted her to stop being such a jerk, and I wanted her to care about how it made me feel.

I wanted her to care so much about how it made me feel that I pushed her away and withheld love from her whenever she was herself and she intimidated dogs.

I also included myself in this cycle, and I spent a lot of effort making myself ashamed of who I was as a dog trainer if I couldn’t make her stop this inappropriate behaviour.

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My shift into unconditional love included both of us.

I let her be her. I accepted myself.

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It seems logical that when I stopped attempting to change her, and I quit berating myself about my lousy ability as a dog trainer, that everything would have gotten worse.

It makes sense that in backing down and quitting trying to change us, it would have negative effects.

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I was lightened and encouraged to see the exact and precise opposite came into our lives.

Ta-da!

It was the act of letting ourselves be ourselves that made it impossibly easy to adapt and steer easily around our obstacles.

I had extra energy to make things work, because I wasn’t constantly playing tug of war with reality and trying to make another version of my imagination come true.

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I wasn’t wishing for anything else, and I wasn’t pushing anything away or in another direction.

I was where I was.


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With my dog.

Who was only who she could be.

I accepted us.

Everything got better.

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Like, sunshine and roses kind of better.

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We were more deeply engaged. We cared more about each other. There wasn’t resistance in our way.


We were more successful, even though she never changed. She was always a bully. She never stopped attempting to intimidate dogs when she got the chance.

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However, due to my incredible acknowledgment and acceptance of who she was, I stopped putting her in situations where her proclivity for bullying was an issue.


I quit trying to train it out of her.


It was our greatest gift, and we had a much sweeter life for it.


If you are reading this, and still itching to make my dog’s problems go away, It makes sense.

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It is a decision to shift into unconditional love.

It means deciding to leave the wish to correct something behind.

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It is an old habit to break. It is entrenched in our society, in our schools, in our workplaces and our families.

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The shaman lead us gently to the places where our hearts heal and our relationships expand.



I am grateful to carry these teachings. I am happy to show you how to embrace them and plant them more fully into your life with your dog.

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Thank you for reading. I would say if your itch is still there, about fixing my dog – maybe you already have some advice you want to give me, about what I could have tried or what you would be doing – can you also check to see if there is another itch showing itself also?

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Do you sense the itch to be accepted for who you are? To have others stop telling you how you can improve? Do you wish for a time where you could be yourself and be accepted?

This is an itch you may like to explore. It is helped with unconditional love.

It is called Munay, by the shaman of the Andes Mountains.




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-->This writing is entirely the creation of a living human being.

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05/05/2026

When your decision is not aligned with what’s commonly accepted, how the scientists put it and what the experts say is correct – how can you trust your choice… and yourself?


Those of us who understand what feels right in our bones, we are under the challenge of asserting this inner wisdom and allowing it to teach us.

I encourage you to trust everything you sense. You don’t need approval from authorities or even the confirmation of experts to support your decisions.

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You are the maker of your own reality. If is what your heart or belly or soul tells you is right, you find confirmation in the way your life responds to you.

Your dog will help you create the path you are both meant to travel together.

It is trust and acceptance of your own truth and clarity.

This is the forgotten skill we all need more than ever right now.

And our dogs are helping us recover it with mastery of faith and guidance of open hearts.

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Image by P Gaudriault

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04/25/2026

In case this helps: it isn’t your dog’s job to learn how to do everything you want and the way you want them to do it.

This is too hard for them sometimes.

It sounds like a nice theory, and a lot of us would like it to happen.

However, it doesn’t work because it is lopsided and unfair. To both of you.

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You and your dog have the right be who you are.

No matter what issues and problems arise from each of your personality types, temperaments and logical processes.

The key is to find these middle spaces where you are both aligned, even in your mismatches.

The way you fit together is how you build your family.

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This is right relationship. It’s called ayni.

Also it’s unconditional love – which is termed munay.

It includes fluidity, named killary.


These are the shamanic principles that are embedded into shamanic dog training and make it simple, easy, practical and possible to create the family that includes all the pieces of both you and your dog.

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You both deserve to be seen and heard. Exactly as you are.

There is no value in shutting down any part of yourself to fit into situations or relationships.

Those aren’t serving you, and you are being harmed in them. Both you and the other party.

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Dog training can be viewed through a different lens.

Where you and your dog have the tools and the confidence to make a life that suits both of you equally.

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Your dog doesn’t need to please you.

Your dog doesn’t need to be shaped.

Or distracted.

Redirected.

Desensitized.

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You both need to become more of who you uniquely are. It is more truthful, and it will translate more deeply into the places you each need to be in order to operate clearly in the world.

It is the distortions, for both your dog and you, that can prevent you from being in the world without needing coping defenses and mechanisms that make things difficult, offensive, insulting and exhausting.

Your frustration and anger, embarrassment and overwhelm can indicate the pieces where you are feeling hidden and buried.

Your dog is having that same experience.

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If you decide to explore shamanic dog training, it is a path to expose the beauty and the truth of who you both are – in the process unfolds your genius and understanding too.

You can live together without either of you needing to change.

You relate cleanly and purely, and solutions and answers show themselves openly.

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It isn’t a fantasy, it’s how you are both designed to operate in the first place.

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Thank you for reading this

04/20/2026

04/16/2026

Your dog is not unpredictable.

If they do something more than a few times, it is a pattern, and you can expect it.

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It is when the pattern doesn’t match with how you would like things to turn out, that you feel shocked to see it again when it appears.

It is when you don’t like what you see, that you try to ignore it and hope it will go away.

That, is how it begins to feel unpredictable and unexpected. Because it is so unwanted. And you reject it.

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For instance, I had a blue heeler and she was prone to bully dogs.

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I tried to prevent it, and I did an amazing job almost all the time.

There were times, very few, that she actually tackled dogs in public and scared them with her shouting and bossing.

It wasn’t that she was unpredictable.

It’s that I couldn’t control what I needed to control.

I hated that about her.

I couldn’t accept that she was like this.

I wanted her to be different.

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I also hated my inability to correct her behaviour.

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I judged her for being so uncaring and insulting to the other dogs and people she upsetted.

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I horrifically judged myself for not being able to get her to care.

I sank into disappointment, embarrassment, self-accusation, anger, and sadness each time this rare event occurred.

It blindsided me each time it happened.

I felt stupid and useless and questioned myself as a dog trainer.

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I felt like a fraud, when I was helping others support their dogs in magnificent shifts, and here I was with a dog who thought it was fun to intimidate unsuspecting dogs.

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I turned my anxiety towards her at these times. I couldn’t accept her, and I pushed her away.

I was cold with her, unaccepting.

I ignored her, or had impatience.

I couldn’t connect with her or hold her lovingly in my heart.

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I rejected her.

When I rejected her, I refused the possibility that she would normally do what she was going to do.

I pushed it so far away, it surprised me when I saw it.

Even though I was constantly aware of it, I had it cordoned off somewhere in my psyche.

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I rejected myself just as much, for not being able to change the situation.

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I felt as though she was breaking my heart, and it was her fault.

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Then there was the guilt I felt about reacting this way.

I was ashamed at how cruel I was to her when I was struggling with my feelings.

I couldn’t let her close, because I was reminded of how unreasonable and unfair I was being.

She brought all my weaknesses to my heart, and it hurt too much – I pushed her away and I avoided our love, to keep from seeing my errors in our relationship.

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It was painful, and she was my favourite being on Earth.

It was impossible, and I was keeping us from having a true friendship.

I had these conditions that I held out for, and couldn’t accept when they weren’t met.

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Sidney could not make me happy. She didn’t please me. I wasn’t getting what I wanted.

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I couldn’t cope with the intensity of my experience.

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When I studied shamanism, I learned about weird and wonderful things such as fluidity, right relationship and unconditional love.

Those are killary, ayni and munay.

They hold the universe together and they have the power to heal and bring wholeness to wherever they exist.

It is natural and time honoured – this flowing acceptance of everything as it is, and nothing needs anything else to change.

The trees accept their branches get blown off. They adore the sunshine and revel in it’s energy. They sway in the storms. They hold the families of birds that unfold for generations.

The sun shines and accepts the clouds when blocked from reaching everything below.

The deer breaks it’s leg and it wobbles around until it heals or it doesn’t.

Everything is in motion, ever changing and ever becoming. Until it is destroyed.

It is the nature of all things in all the existences.

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I didn’t know I was denying that.

I wasn’t aware I was born into a family, a culture, a belief system, a set of values, that denies these have any role in my life.

I was told it was someone else’s fault if I was unhappy.

I was informed how I could blame the outside world for the problems I had.

I had the impression that I was supposed to demand that others change for my benefit.

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And if nothing of these occurred, I was entitled to get angry, be resentful, become resistant, cause more difficulty.


I was under the expectation that the outside world would meet my needs, make me happy, fulfill my wishes and bring what I desire.

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My mom was a master at this plan, and her dissatisfaction and complaints about how nothing worked out and how many things were to blame was legendary.



Here I was, playing this pattern out with my beautiful Sidney.

Who had the audacity to be made exactly how she was, and turn out precisely how she was meant to be.

Who was she to be something I didn’t want her to be? How offensive that she couldn’t tailor her traits to suit me more.
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The shamanic principles seeped into my life and I felt them affecting me.

I showed progress, as my judgments and hindrances adjusted.


It felt good to tap into a system that wasn’t built on shame and blame and guilt and betrayal.

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So solid, and so trustworthy.

I experienced healing again and again as my old ideas, implanted by generations of humans around me, were lovingly pulled out – like weeds in a garden.

This seemed to leave space for the true nature of my being to make it’s way to the surface.

What is incredible is that I wasn’t learning new habits or remembering new patterns.

I discovered that these qualities were actually already within me, and they were easy to get in touch with.

The seeds of unconditional love, fluidity and right relationship were blooming and spreading through my life.

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It appeared to be in my nature to feel and operate according to these principles.

It became apparent it is the language my heart already speaks.

I must have forgot it.



With Sidney, my heart softened.

She got the space she needed to just be who she was.

With no needs, no expectations from me that she do anything differently.

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It made me easier to handle her.

I wasn’t stiff with my unacceptance of her and my willfulness to change reality.

And the denial, anger and insanity that comes with rejecting truth.

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She didn’t change.

But our lives did.
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I found the joy in being with her that I forgot was possible. That I had reserved previously for only the times when all pieces appeared as I wanted them.

I accepted her, slowly at first, and then readily after a while.

I whole heartedly decided she was perfect.

Absolute perfection.

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When I realized her perfection, nothing felt unpredictable.

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I adored her, and my heart’s relief was overwhelming.

We had years to make up for me being such a bitch.

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The shamanic principles led us out of my confusion.

I could see clearly what needed to be arranged to make our lives seamless and enjoyable.

Even with the problems that existed.

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It meant those problems became less apparent, they didn’t affect each of us as much.

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I didn’t fix my dog. She wasn’t cured.

It wasn’t behaviour modification that succeeded. Or shaping.

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It was magic.

Of eons of nature, finally informing me as my greatest confidante.

It was everything that already exists, and me becoming part of it.

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My teacher tells me we can “remember our place in creation.”

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It is the easiest thing to do in the world.


If you have something in your life you are railing against and you can’t get control of, something that feels unpredictable - perhaps a dog, this could help you if you are open.

It can’t be forced, and it isn’t a solution.

It is an allowing, and remembering.

Soft and powerful, easy and impassioning.
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I can help you, if you feel that’s possible.

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It is shamanic dog training. The whole thing exists.

You just need to step into it.

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Contact me, and we can talk about it. You can find out if you’d like it’s help.

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I am sending you love. And to your dog, many many hugs.

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I appreciate you being here. Along with your dog.



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04/15/2026

Your dog understands you.

Don't worry.

They hear you.

Every single word.

All your ideas, thoughts, comments - they can perceive.

It is natural and they have never forgot the connection that exists between all things on Earth.

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As we hold each other and return to this network of awareness and cognizance, our dogs are also part of this process.

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Allow them to teach us.

Offer them our hearts.



It is a place we will trust above so many others - the loving space between ourselves and our dogs.

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You know what you feel with them, and it is something that leads us home.

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I know you understand, and have felt this way.

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I am saying it is real.

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It is more real than almost anything else you will encounter.


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It invites us to trust ourselves.

It shows us the way to our wisdom.

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You are remembering something you were never meant to forget.


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